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Report, edit, etc...Posted by ... on 2005-11-26 at 17:18:32

Just simply go talk to him and ask him if hes a homosexual or something. Then you're on your own after this.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by NerdyTerdy on 2005-11-26 at 19:34:07

Okay, I'll try to make this a little more clear, I am a guy, this person is a guy and he's following me, I'm 99.9% sure that he's serious just because I know what his personality is like, except for this stalker stuff.. I did consider beating him up, but decided that if he really is gay, it's the similar to a guy trying to get a girl to go out with him, and people don't deserve to beat up for that. I at this point do not want to be his friend though, I have no problem with gay people, until they like me, after that it's just too much for me. Thanks for all the input people. I'm still trying to think of what exactly to say, because I feel really uncomfortable about this, and I don't really think I could go up to him and say "Are you gay or what?" Anymore ideas?

Report, edit, etc...Posted by notnuclearrabbit on 2005-11-26 at 20:48:49

[center]Does he think you're gay? If he does, try telling/showing him you aren't.[/center]

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Hofodomo on 2005-11-26 at 20:52:03

If he is gay, and unless he is super cool with it, he would not come out and act all like that. A gay person would probably know that there are many people who would mave fun of his/her homosexuality being out in the open.

So he is either "one of those people" who just...are "flamboyant"

or, I dunno, a weird person in general.

I doubt he is gay, because like I said earlier, he probably would not risk the whole social appearance thing and blow it away on somebody he doesn't even know how they would react.

So, maybe, I dunno, he's intentionally trying to be all-cool-like-dat or something by being weird. You know the kind. If you really don't think so, well, accept an "invitation" of his to...read books...

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Doodan on 2005-11-26 at 21:02:49

QUOTE(Hofodomo @ Nov 26 2005, 08:52 PM)

I don't know, if he's young he may be experiencing attraction for the first time and it's very overpowering. Even if he doesn't want his orentation to be exposed, it's still gonna be really tough for him to control his feelings. We were all like that with our first crushes, weren't we?

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Hofodomo on 2005-11-26 at 21:15:58

I see what you mean, but from what Nerdy described, he hardly seems to be feeling too much pressure. I could be wrong, but he just doesn't seem to be that nervous about the situation. The mystery stalker needs to be elaborated on...

Report, edit, etc...Posted by NerdyTerdy on 2005-11-27 at 02:12:44

Okay this kid actually does seem pretty nervous around me. He also sent over one of his friends a few weeks ago to get my e-mail address (which at the time I didn't think was weird). He insisted on giving me a birthday present even though I told him not to, he gave me Halo 2 for the X-Box, I then told him that I don't own an X-Box, so he told me he'd buy me one for Christmas, he plans to give it to me sometime this week. My plan is to give him Halo 2 back and tell him my dad won't let me accept a gift like that, then I'm going to tell him that I just feel uncomfortable with him sending me e-mails like he's been sending me and that I want him just to back off. Sound good? I'm not sure if he's gay or just like over-friendly... Either way I want him to just leave me alone. Not sure what to think about this having just turned 14 and still being pretty uh not immature, but inexperienced I suppose.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by TheDaddy0420 on 2005-11-27 at 13:45:01

Dude, F-that.... Take the Halo 2 and Xbox, THEN tell him to go away. /sarcasm

Thats sucks becuase hes sort of bribing you into friendship. Don't be too harsh, just be like I can't accept these gifts and I would like it if you would stop sending me those emails and if you could stop hanging out with me that would be great.

I suggest doing this over the phone, or some where else where there is no one around so he doesn't have the embarrissment of every one watching.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by NerdyTerdy on 2005-11-27 at 18:38:31

Lol yeah, I don't really want him to have my phone number though, and I'd prefer do it in person so he gets the message really clear. This is tough, I'm gonna have to do it with a friend at least nearby incase he is like insane and decides to do something weird.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Deathawk on 2005-11-27 at 19:57:32

Dude, call him, make it clear you don't want him stalking you, but being friends would be okay...
If he continues to stalk you... COURT = MONEY FOR YOU

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Do-0dan on 2005-11-27 at 20:02:45

dont embarrass him in front of a crowd!! people like that are potential murderers...and u dont want to be responsible for him becoming one
he might even murder you, like bring a gun to your school and shoot random people

Report, edit, etc...Posted by NerdyTerdy on 2005-11-27 at 20:40:06

Well I'm not talking about doing it in front of a crowd, but I do want to have a friend or two around for back up. Also I don't even want to be friends with him, haven't I said that a few times? I dunno it's hard to say I don't even want to be friends with you nicely..

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Doodan on 2005-11-27 at 20:45:25

This will be a learning experience for both of you. He needs to learn rejection, you need to learn to take action. Use common sense when it comes to the "method" for telling him, but don't let him try and talk you in to anything. Be concise and honest and don't lose sight of what you want to do. Don't lie to him and don't let him make you feel guilty. Hey... now you know how a lot of girls feel when guys get obsessed with them heheheh.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by NerdyTerdy on 2005-11-27 at 21:37:32

Yeah lol that's the first thing I said to a girl I told about it, "Now I know how girls feel when guys follow them..." I wouldn't let him talk me into anything seeing as the whole gay thing just is totally gross to me. Nothing wrong with it, just not for me. Learning experience at like 8:30 AM tomorrow..

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Doodan on 2005-11-27 at 22:01:07

QUOTE(NerdyTerdy @ Nov 27 2005, 09:37 PM)

Learning experience at like 8:30 AM tomorrow..
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Cool, I'll be there with some popcorn, party hats, and a video camera. I'm gonna win the America's Funniest Videos this year!

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Deathawk on 2005-11-27 at 22:03:07

Do you have any classes in school with him, because if you HAVE to see him every day, it isn't going to work out.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Doodan on 2005-11-27 at 22:06:05

QUOTE(Dorkhawk @ Nov 27 2005, 10:03 PM)

Do you have any classes in school with him, because if you HAVE to see him every day, it isn't going to work out.
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Nonsense, I've been forced to be in the presence of girls who rejected me in school MANY times. There was this one girl who I had classes with (I really liked her too) that shot me down, but I still saw her 3 or 4 times a week for another year and a half.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Deathawk on 2005-11-27 at 22:13:24

There is a difference...
HE WAS A STALKER!!!!!
He's probabaly less stable in life than you are anyway...
I have an idea NerdyTerdy...
Send him an email with the link to this forum thread.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by NerdyTerdy on 2005-11-28 at 17:17:09

You might be joking (I dunno), but that actually sounds like it might be a good idea. Today I didn't get a chance to talk to him, I was kinda scared, but he was staring at me all class period. Bothered me... This stalker is in my homeroom, my technology class, and science. Technology will change end of first semester which is in about a month, but the other classes I'm stuck in. I think it might be a good idea to send him the e-mail of this thread, even if that was a joke...

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Caboose on 2005-11-28 at 19:31:02

QUOTE(Doodan @ Nov 27 2005, 10:01 PM)

Cool, I'll be there with some popcorn, party hats, and a video camera. I'm gonna win the America's Funniest Videos this year!
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Doodan stole my popcorn, party hats, AND my video camera.

Well I hope your plan works.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by NerdyTerdy on 2005-11-28 at 19:35:55

Well, it's not really funny, it's creepy... I was too scared to talk to him about it today, instead when one of my friends (who is being pretty helpful through this) got him to come to me so I could tell him, I literally ran off lol. I'm gonna get him to back me up when I tell this kid that I just need some space.. Note to self, tell this kid to leave me alone in Technology

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Tmac on 2005-11-28 at 19:38:11

Stalk him so he knows what it feels like.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by NerdyTerdy on 2005-11-28 at 19:47:57

Uhh, that would probably just encourage him... Also I don't particularly feel like that is a good solution.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Deathawk on 2005-11-28 at 20:21:23

I wasn't joking, I thought it was a pretty good idea myself.
But the topic could be a little cleaner... some people were like.. BASEBALL BAT, GUN, KNIFE, PEPPER SPRAY!

Report, edit, etc...Posted by NerdyTerdy on 2005-11-28 at 20:45:21

I actually think it's a good idea as well, the stuff like that could show him how much people disapprove of these stalkerish ways... I mean it'd probably be a pretty rude awakening for him, but tomorrow when I go up to him with my friend and tell him I don't like this shiz and he needs to stop is gonna be a rude awakening too.

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