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Report, edit, etc...Posted by Lo[S]eR on 2004-08-26 at 20:40:54
QUOTE(Valahan @ Aug 26 2004, 04:44 PM)
Just because when someone is little and sees their gay parents kiss or whatever doesn't mean they will be gay.

Do you think Hannibal the Cannibal grew up watching his parents eat people left and right?

Do you think Jack the Ripper grew up watching his parents kill people and just then and there, at the age of 8, decide to be a psycho when he grew up?? I doubt it.

You are born however you are born. You are born gay or a mass murderer(in this case with unbalanced brain chemicals). You don't become it unless by choice.

I say it's fine if people want to be gay. Let them, it's not your life and you don't have to concern yourself with it. And they should be able to adopt regardless of their sexual orientation.

Yup..

I see nothing wrong with gay people.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by mobomojo on 2004-08-27 at 01:05:32
QUOTE(EzDay2 @ Aug 26 2004, 04:08 PM)

And I agree with Nozumu, now that I see something new: What does how wrong or right gay being is have to do with marriage?

Apparently, there are people in the US that feels that marriage is a sacred tradition ad religion and yada yada, and that homosexuals shouldnt be associated with that.

And just for the irrelavent hell of it, Bush opposes gay marriage, correct?
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Nozomu on 2004-08-27 at 01:19:21
Oh yes, that's been established. He's been trying to push a bill that would make gay marriage illegal. It wouldn't be a state issue anymore, and instead be a federal issue.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Helios on 2004-08-27 at 01:44:35
I thought this was always a fedral thing. At least after about 2 weks ago when some city in California legalized gay marrige then govt. said they overstepped their bounds then said all those gay marriges were not regonized anymore.


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Oh, you still haven't come up with an answer to why we allow sterile people to get married. Just to remind you tongue.gif .


Because there are many reason why people get married. Sorry to say "Love" just isnt a big one anymore, not when the divorce rate in this country is over 60%. Nowdays people get a crush on someone and then get married have a few kids and then find out they hate each other.

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"No evidence ? go take a simple high school biology class. There is plenty of evidence. What the bleep does killing billions of people have to do with the meaning of life or homosexuality ? nothing. "
I'm in Middle School right now.
And what evidence is there about the meaning of life, why we all exist, being to reproduce, that is taught in high school bioloy that you can't say right here? Say it here, please, I want to see how stupid, or possibly extremely intelligent, new, and revolutionary it is to my mind.


Hmm lets see here, not one thing in this universe has some devine reasoning its all an accident. But since life did accidentlaty start (further disscusion in another thread) it made its main purpose to suivive, to continue the species pass on genes ect ect. We all know you cant continue the species without reproduction so thus by simple deductive reasoning 'to reproduce is the meaning of life'.

Just so you know since its obvious you dont, Im not talking about some devine spiritual reason why life exist, but why it exiast coming from a purely technical aspect.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Clokr_ on 2004-08-27 at 10:00:20
WTF, Drunk posting on Staredit Network???!?!?!? Woah tongue.gif
Report, edit, etc...Posted by DrunkenWrestler on 2004-08-27 at 17:38:36
QUOTE(Helios @ Aug 27 2004, 12:44 AM)
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Oh, you still haven't come up with an answer to why we allow sterile people to get married.

Because there are many reason why people get married.

Does being gay null and void those reasons?

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Hmm lets see here, not one thing in this universe has some devine reasoning its all an accident.

You could be right.

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But since life did accidentlaty start (further disscusion in another thread) it made its main purpose to suivive to continue the species pass on genes ect ect. We all know you cant continue the species without reproduction so thus by simple deductive reasoning 'to reproduce is the meaning of life'.

Reproduction is simply a mechenism to continue a species. Nothing more, nothing less. Are you saying that sterile couples no longer have a purpose to life because they are unable to reproduce?

The meaning to life is subjective concept that we humans tend to give ourselves. I hope you don't feel that once you give birth to a kid and raise him, there is no longer anything worth living for.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by EzDay281 on 2004-08-27 at 19:35:10
Okay so it's a technical standpoint.
And this is a thread about opinions on whether something that really has no meaning should make marriages illegal, for those that the no-meaning-thing applies to.

If life was all an accident, then how can it have a purpose?
If you dropped a knife on your foot, accidentaly, then is there suddenly a purpose for you to drop a knife on your foot?

No, there could be a reason, but it was pretty much non-existant because no1 it would apply to knows it, since you didn't even mean to drop that knife.
It just happened because of coincidence.

EDIT: From whether gay-marriage should be legal to what the meaning of life is...
*shakes head*
Report, edit, etc...Posted by NerdyTerdy on 2004-08-27 at 23:51:35
GAY MARRIAGE IS NO NO NO! Men have censored.gif es not to go up other men's asses but to go up women's censored.gif s, not meaning to be nasty or anything but it's the bare truth, same with girls..
Report, edit, etc...Posted by DrunkenWrestler on 2004-08-28 at 00:07:50
QUOTE(NerdyTerdy @ Aug 27 2004, 10:51 PM)
GAY MARRIAGE IS NO NO NO!  Men have  censored.gif es not to go up other men's asses but to go up women's  censored.gif s, not meaning to be nasty or anything but it's the bare truth, same with girls..

We have a nobel prize winning argument! How utterly convincing and well thought out!
Report, edit, etc...Posted by NerdyTerdy on 2004-08-28 at 00:19:40
smile.gif Ya I thought so, and you didn't even answer the question dumb censored.gif . So that's like spam.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Mune'R0x on 2004-08-28 at 00:26:21
It's true Drunk. But let me put it this way. If you have a virus in your body, what do you do? You don't just sit on your ass and let the virus take over your body, you get medication for it and fix it.

Let's say that gay is a virus. Someone has caught the gay. You don't just sit on your ass and let the gay take over your entire body. What do you do? You find some way of getting rid of it. Whether it be psychology, crossing out pictures of men like they guy does in jail on Half Baked, a nice, swift beating, or taking away advantages for them, i.e. marriage, adoption. Ahhh!! It turns out that you can catch gay from being around gay people! Pretty soon nobody does anything but spreads the gay in people's asses and the whole population turns gay. The end of the human race is right around the corner. All because people allowed gay marriage...

I don't know what I'm aiming for here, but think of this as something smart that I said.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by EzDay281 on 2004-08-28 at 01:26:24
Except that that's completely irrelevant, seeing as there is no 'gay' virus that causes homosexuality.

Don't compare gay to something else that's considered 'bad' by the general public, because the goal is to convince us WHY gay should be considered 'bad', not that it is, because we already know that.

Please, can you ppl please put a little more thought into your posts?
This thread practicaly deserves to be put in the garbage forum, there are so many idiotic posts.


And NerdyTerdy, that didn't really make any sense.
True, evolution didn't really think "Hey I'll make a device normally used for reporduction, except instead used to give pleasure to those with different sexual preferance then most!", but gay marriage doesn't necasarily include such acts, and besides that, you've only pointed out an irrelevant truth, not how other people doing that effects you and other non-gays negatively.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by DrunkenWrestler on 2004-08-28 at 01:50:30
QUOTE(NerdyTerdy @ Aug 27 2004, 11:19 PM)
smile.gif Ya I thought so, and you didn't even answer the question dumb  censored.gif .  So that's like spam.

First, you didn't ask a question. Second, do you really think you've innovated some groundbreaking arguments? You've just been making tons of unsupported assertions that have already been made on this thread, such as, "gay is wrong, because I feel it's wrong, so it's wrong!"

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Let's say that gay is a virus. Someone has caught the gay. You don't just sit on your ass and let the gay take over your entire body. What do you do? You find some way of getting rid of it. Whether it be psychology, crossing out pictures of men like they guy does in jail on Half Baked, a nice, swift beating, or taking away advantages for them, i.e. marriage, adoption. Ahhh!! It turns out that you can catch gay from being around gay people! Pretty soon nobody does anything but spreads the gay in people's asses and the whole population turns gay. The end of the human race is right around the corner. All because people allowed gay marriage...

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Not a valid analogy. You're comparing apples to oranges.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by mobomojo on 2004-08-28 at 03:11:44
QUOTE(`BiG~kAhOoNa` @ Aug 27 2004, 08:26 PM)

Let's say that gay is a virus.  Someone has caught the gay.  You don't just sit on your ass and let the gay take over your entire body.  What do you do?  You find some way of getting rid of it.  Whether it be psychology, crossing out pictures of men like they guy does in jail on Half Baked, a nice, swift beating, or taking away advantages for them, i.e. marriage, adoption.  Ahhh!!  It turns out that you can catch gay from being around gay people!  Pretty soon nobody does anything but spreads the gay in people's asses and the whole population turns gay.  The end of the human race is right around the corner.  All because people allowed gay marriage...

I don't know what I'm aiming for here, but think of this as something smart that I said.

Why would homosexuality be compared to a virus? That just shows bias in your argument and makes it harder to back up now. And Im trying to understand where youre trying to go with your analogy, but its tough when you go from virus to marriage.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by MindArchon on 2004-08-28 at 03:27:41
I only read about the first two pages and skipped to the last post.

How would having 2 gay parents change the fact whether you are gay or straight?

It has been proven that people are either straight or gay at birth. People are gay because they cannot help it. It is because of a chemical inbalance in their brain.

What really pisses me off is when people go, omg that guys gay. Jesus, why is he gay, thats just so wrong. I have a friend who is gay, he doesnt want to be gay, and he tries to act straight. HE JUST CANT HELP IT.

So it doesnt really matter the way you are raised, as you will either be gay or straight.

Now, im waiting for some good arguments here for people who disagree with me. Cmon people!
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Mune'R0x on 2004-08-28 at 04:00:06
Where has it been proven? I'd like to see a reliable source that says you're born gay and cannot become gay on your own.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by mobomojo on 2004-08-28 at 12:45:06
Well, google 'research people are born gay' and youll get some links.

An article that pops up a few times though:

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An Op-Ed piece in Tuesday's (12/17/91) New York Times, reprinted without permission:

Are some people born gay?
By Michael Bailey and Richard Pillard
Science is rapidly converging on the conclusion that sexual orientation is innate. It has found that homosexuals often act differently from heterosexuals in early childhood, before they have even heard of sex. A recent study by Simon LeVay, a neurobiologist at the Salk Institute, reported a difference in the hypothalamus, a part of the brain that develops at a young age, between homosexual and heterosexual men.

If true, a biological explanation is good news for homosexuals and their advocates.

Our own research has shown that male sexual orientation is substantially genetic. Over the last two years, we have studied the rates of homosexuality in identical and non-identical twin brothers of gay men, as well as adoptive brothers of gay men. Fifty-two percent of the identical twin brothers were gay, as against 22 percent of non-identical twins and 11 percent of the adoptive, genetically unrelated brothers.

In contrast, research on social factors has been fruitless. [:-)...rjw] Despite many attempts, there has been no clear demonstration that parental behavior, even a parent's homosexuality, affects children's sexual orientation. Cultures tolerant of homosexuals do not appear to raise more of them than do less permissive societies.

Homophobes sometimes justify their prejudice against homosexuals by alleging that homosexuality is contagious -- that young homosexuals become that way because of older homosexuals and that homosexuality is a social corruption. Such beliefs form the core of the organized anti-homosexual movement. If homosexuality is largely innate, this would prove that these claims are groundless.

Given these implications, it may seem surprising that the biological studies disturb many gay and lesbian advocates. Misunderstanding them, the advocates often suggest that the search for a biological cause is motivated by an assumption that homosexuality is an illness. Behavioral scientists, however, have long searched for biological underpinnings of traits such as extraversion and intelligence, which no one considers to be negative. Furthermore, a biological explanation of homosexuality simultaneously explains heterosexuality.

This leads to a more pertinent fear of gays and lesbians, that people will assume that answers to moral questions hinge on the results of scientific study. Should a benevolent view of homosexuality depend on the assumption that it is innate? Are gays and lesbians to be tolerated only if they are "born that way"?

Regardless of what causes sexual orientation, there is no plausible justification for oppressing homosexuals. Reasons that have long been offered -- that homosexuals disproportionately molest children, convert heterosexuals to homsexuality, are mentally ill, betray their country -- have been shown to be false.

But homophobia remains the one form of bigotry that respectable people can express in public. If the long-overdue national debate on homosexuality took place, the poverty of the anti-homosexual case would become readily apparent.

If scientific study of the origins of sexual orientation would not directly resolve the public issue, why do it?

First, in can inform public debate. But equally important is the value of discovery, particularly self-discovery. A gay man with a heterosexual identical twin, both of whom we studied, put it this way: "I accepted being gay years ago, so that's not why I want to know. But sexual orientation is such an important part of my life -- anyone's life -- that I'm still curious why I turned out gay and my brother straight." How could anyone not be curious?

Michael Bailey is assistant professor of psychology at Northwestern University. Richard Pillard is associate professor of psychiatry at Boston University School of Medicine.


Also, and quote: "Homophobes sometimes justify their prejudice against homosexuals by alleging that homosexuality is contagious", is probably where that virus thing comes into play, I suppose.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Helios on 2004-08-28 at 13:37:55
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Reproduction is simply a mechenism to continue a species. Nothing more, nothing less. Are you saying that sterile couples no longer have a purpose to life because they are unable to reproduce?

The meaning to life is subjective concept that we humans tend to give ourselves. I hope you don't feel that once you give birth to a kid and raise him, there is no longer anything worth living for.


Maybe you didnt fully read my other posts but I clearly said this was not fully the case with humans.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by EzDay281 on 2004-08-28 at 13:42:12
What does human or not have to do with it, though?
Report, edit, etc...Posted by DrunkenWrestler on 2004-08-28 at 22:24:11
QUOTE(Helios @ Aug 28 2004, 12:37 PM)
Maybe you didnt fully read my other posts but I clearly said this was not fully the case with humans.

Then let's not use it as an argument against gays getting married.

In the meantime, the arguments that say gay marriage is wrong because being gay is wrong (talk about circular logic, fascinating!) have really convinced me. And I will now cite twelve reasons written by the Gator GSA organization as to why gay marriage will ruin society.

1. Homosexuality is not natural, much like eyeglasses, polyester, and birth control are not natural.

2. Heterosexual marriages are valid because they produce children. Infertile couples and old people cannot get legally married because the world needs more children.

3. Obviously gay parents will raise gay children because straight parents only raise straight children.

4. Straight marriage will be less meaningful, since Britney Spears's 55-hour just-for-fun marriage was meaningful.

5. Heterosexual marriage has been around for a long time, and it hasn't changed at all: women are property, Blacks can't marry Whites, and divorce is illegal.

6. Gay marriage should be decided by the people, not the courts, because the majority-elected legislatures, not courts, have historically protected the rights of minorities.

7. Gay marriage is not supported by religion. In a theocracy like ours, the values of one religion are always imposed on the entire country. That's why we only have one religion in America.

8. Gay marriage will encourage people to be gay, in the same way that hanging around tall people makes you tall.

9. Legalizing gay marriage will open the door to all kinds of crazy behavior. People may even wish to marry their pets because a dog has legal standing and can sign a marriage license.

10. Children can never succeed without both male and female role models at home. That's why single parents are forbidden to raise children.

11. Gay marriage will change the foundation of society. Heterosexual marriage has been around for a long time, and we could never adapt to new social norms because we haven't adapted to cars or longer lifespans.

12. Civil unions, providing most of the same benefits as marriage with a different name are better, because a "separate but equal" institution is always constitutional. Separate schools for African-Americans worked just as well as separate marriages will for gays & lesbians.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by MindArchon on 2004-08-28 at 22:28:17
I'm curious. If Homosexuality isnt natural where did it come from?
Report, edit, etc...Posted by MapUnprotector on 2004-08-28 at 22:51:32
if homosexuality is natural then whats the point of having males/females?
if there r homosexuals that think that the whole world should be homosexual then would they support cloning?
Report, edit, etc...Posted by DrunkenWrestler on 2004-08-28 at 23:38:19
QUOTE(devilesk @ Aug 28 2004, 09:51 PM)
if homosexuality is natural then whats the point of having males/females?

I don't know what you mean by "point," but I'm going to assume that you are looking at it from a biological perspective. For those of us who are heterosexual (which is also natural)... well, when a man and a woman fall in love...
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if there r homosexuals that think that the whole world should be homosexual then would they support cloning?

Who knows. If I think using animals for clothing is wrong, does that somehow affect my position on tax cuts?
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Vindexus on 2004-08-29 at 01:12:03
OMG did that take a long time to read. I've come to a few points

1. Being gay is unnatural
2. That doesn't censored.gif ing matter
3. DrunkenWrestler's sarcasm pwnz0rz j00
4. When two gay people adopt a child, it will screw up the child
5. 4 is only true if you do no research and are a homophobe
6. Being raised by gay parents may or may not increase your odds to be gay
7. That doesn't censored.gif ing matter
8. Homophobes don't know how to do research. I of course base this on absolutely no research whatsoever.
9. Saying "unheterosexual" makes you sound like a moron who could accidentally mistake a cactus for a flashlight.

Let's have a situation here. There are two gay people who are very happy. One of the couple, let's say John, get's in a car accident and is put in the hospital. His partner, let's say Greg, cannot visit John before his love dies. They won't be able to speak before John dies because they are not married. They aren't married because that's not allowed. Ask yourself, is that right?

The above can happen, some representatives of some Gays and Lesbians community told my school.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Mpstark on 2004-09-02 at 18:45:39
I've only read the first half of this thread so if I repeat something, bear with me.

What is it about people that makes them so damn close-minded? About 1/2 of the people in this thread are homophobic and I bet every single one of them has met a gay person and they didn't know it. Probably most of them have a friend that is gay or bisexual.

Being gay is not really a choice. There is a 'homosexual gene' that they have found that links most gay people. But, there are some cases of someone not having the gene and being homosexual and some having it and not. I bet that most of you have fallen in love (or had an infatuation) on a member of the other sex. Did you feel like you had a choice in the matter? Not really.

Being bisexual exists in animals also. About 1 in 30 sheep have this condition. It's not 'unnatural'. Some of you have put up the argument that "if it were natural than the human race would go exinct". Genetic defects are natural; they exist in nature. However, only a small percentage of the human population has a genetic defect. The same is true with being homosexual.

When two gay people adopt a child, it is more likely that the child is gay. That's a fact; it's been proven. But who gives a censored.gif? Eh? It's not going to mess up the kid, but it may make the kid more open-minded about gay people, which is a good thing anyway.

I'm all for same-sex marriages. If two people love each other enough to get married then no one should stop them. They should have the same benifets and the same privlages as other marriages. But some people don't want that and I see their arguement. Here's my comprimise:

Let gay people get 'married'. Let them have all the things that go with it under the law, but don't call it marriage. Call it something else, and have a seperate licence for it. If the church feels like it, they can suspend the right to have the Bible as the thing read at the 'marriage'.

But that's my opinion. If this hasn't changed your opinion, then fine. If it has, I'm glad for it. But those people who still haven't changed their opinion yet, go meet someone who is gay. Talk to them, joke with them, eat with them, and you'll find that they are no different from us at all.
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