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How do you show love to a member of the opposite sex?

How can they show love to you?

This is a thematic set of questions that is haphazardly rotating around my real question at hand: do guys like getting flowers?

Answer all three or feel my squirrely wrath.

Flowers make me feel weird. (I've actually gotten some.)

And I suppose by love you mean affection, in which case I suppose physical contact would be one of the most direct forms I've encountered.

lol, I sound like a robot.

[center]Ugg, material gifts... Nothing material anyone can give you shows any ammount of affection. I'm just too cynical.
I'm very physical when it comes to showing affection, and prefer to give rather than recieve. God, I sound creepy.[/center]

1) Giving them a lot of attention, complimenting them in every way, calling them

2) Giving me a lot of their attention.

3) Not particularly but if they are a sign of affection, then sure.

Spend time with them and let them know that you love every moment you spend with them. Ha, if I got flowers, I'd apperciate th gesture, but...it'd still be awkward. Uh, give them hugs and kisses, and give them attention? Material possesions are good too I suppose.

1 + 2 : Overly complicated to anwser...
Let's say there is a big range of gestures...
The ones at the top are more serious and you get one oppurtunity to show your love every few years or so. For example, their grandparent is dying and you support and comfort her, spend time with the hospital with her, be patient with her...
To the bottom which is a day to day thing. Opening doors for them, sure... maybe at the WAY bottom of the list... but doing this constantly just makes it a routine and really shows nothing.
For the first year or so, when emotions are hot, it's pretty hard to show/prove love because a lot of things are done out of infaturation. If things carry on throughout the years, that's how you really show love...
Everything has to be sincere, done just to be done, not done to try and prove your love.

When you need them most, they are there for you.
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They surprise you occasionally by having your favorite meal ready for you when you get home.
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Going outside for them when it's freezing cold to brush the snow off their car and warm it up when you know they will leave soon.
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Trying to avoid the things that drive them crazy... If she hate cigars, don't smoke them around her.
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Interest in their interests.
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You sincerely ask how their day at work/school went.


Then there is just on-going things you can only show with time... such as keeping up communication and such... Attention is a big one.

Like I said, this is way overly complicated...




3. I've gotten quite a few flowers in the past and I actually enjoy it. When I got one in high school, it didn't bother me none to carry it from class to class...

I look then in the eye every time I tell them how much I love them. I'm always telling them how much I love them.

If they could tell me their true feelings for me while looking me in the eyes, that would show it to me.

If I was to get flowers, I would like it. If I was to get a single rose, then even better

I'm just like that. I have no problem buying them stuff, but I may not necessarily know what to give. Gifts are definantly not my love-language. I'm more of a hug, cuddle, hold hands, physical affectionist.

Flowers for a guy is just akward, especially for me. I never know how to react to a gift.

Chivalry can be akward at times... Like opening doors for people?

Talk to them, be nice to them..
After time, tell them that your interested in them (only if you notice they are interested in you).

Then go out with them and take it from there.

Gifts = a no no until you are going out.

You Can't Kill A Man With Flowers:
A Bouquet Of Broken Dreams

An' I'm sayin',
You can't kill a man with flowers!
An I'm telling you,
You can't scald a man with affection!
And I'm screaming on the inside,
There ain't no harm in a compliment!

[Chorus]
I'm okay, but a bouquet would make me feel a lot better,

~EJ

And here I thought I'd only use this at coffee house (it's a song me and a friend wrote to make fun of emo bands). Seriously, if I got flowers I would take it as a joke. If most guys are anything like me, they won't be able to tell the difference between one flower and the next (how much money you spend doesn't equal how loved a guy feels, that's only girls?), so don't spend a lot.

lol, thats hawt.

Then you would put the rose in your mouth, start tapdancing and screaming how much you love her in spainish.

and to really turn her on, scream how much u love her in French

hahaha. He's assistant director of a play, so I want to give him a flower...its sorta a theater tradition. That's a little more background

oh, you're a girl.......
well......i wouldnt like flowers as a sign of affection from a girl.....the flower giving should be from a guy, and since you arent one, choose another present?

*Kow breaks into dance
TE AMO!!!!!!

well most guys dont understand girls very well cause quite frankly we are completey different. i think girls like the fact that you are sacrficing your own money for them. but buying too much im betin gets annoying.

yeah give them a lot of attetion and stuff.

and are you talking about meeting a girl or dating?

Love... not my usual area of choice to talk about but.. here goes nuttin..

1. I have no idea anymore... All I can do now is do unto them what I would have liked done unto myself. I do things for them because I want to, because I'd rather they not have to go through hardship... because I want them to be happy and untroubled. I'd sacrifice myself for those that I love. The only problem is deciding if I want to love them or not... it's not always mutual, if you haven't guessed already.

2. Purely by want. If they want to be around me for the sake of being around me, I'd consider that a form of affection, I'd consider that. I don't recieve that form of affection often though... okay, make that period.. and now you know why I choose not to talk about this that often..

3. It depends on the guy. Kame, asking that last question (to SEN, no less...) and not providing much backing on it won't get you any good answers... isn't this the sort of thing you turn to personal friends for?

Truth be told, I think it really centers on self sacrifice for the said loved one... how hard you'd work, how much you'd give up, all the things that you'd do for them... without the hope of personal gain.

I guess guys and girls can show love the same ways. Its just much more direct usually with guys. What I'm saying is guys usually ask the girls out or show the girls that they like them before the girl shows the guy... Sometimes not though...

We write poems for them, send them flowers and chocolates, bring them to the movies, draw art for them, etc...
(You can use "Them" as women or men. Same with "We". I'm just saying its usually the men who are the "We".)

They say they love us... baring our children is generally the most forward way of them showing any affection towards us, although this isn't always the case.

I wouldn't mind getting flowers from a girl. I would make sure I gava her some though as well

1. A man must avoid being emotionally intimate whenever possible, and only show that side when the woman can't take anymore of his coldness or carelessness. I'm not saying be a jerk, just use comedy or changing the subject or an escape pod to avoid emotional topics. Otherwise you'll be in FRIEND ZONE limbo. I show it by being chivalrous in action but NEVER NEVER NEVER in words. Again, only SAY it when the woman is really at the edge.

2. Heh heh, it depends on the girl. Some of them are all sweet and get me presents and such, while others invite me over for some bullshiz reason and then eat my face off when I get there. I like both.

3. YES! It's cool for a girl to get a guy flowers. I used to get girls flowers, but I stopped. It was too much of a girly man action. But I am actually very flattered when a girl gets me a flower. I guess I'm a softy deep down inside, but I do better at keeping my composure when faced with a slinky skirt instead of some flowers and a corny card. It just melts my icy heart away! Of course, I don't let the girl know that.

Hope that helps. If not, then you at least know what to get me for my birthday.

Uh, I prefer to isolate myself from people as to conduct experiments into the stimulation of the senses of sight and sound (IE, looking through binoculars through the wrong end, listening to the merging, uncomprehensible voices of a radio set inbetween two channels, etc.) I do strange stuff in the middle of the night. Not to say that I don't like being with people, I just like that stuff more. I can just shut off the radio, but people just won't ever shut the hell up. I like control over the sound I'm hearing, and quiet is always cool.

mmm I'm not a lesbian...why would I date a girl?

For the revenue from teh porn dvds.

Lol. I actually have never had a girlfriend or even liked a girl (or guy). Sure, I think certain girls are good-looking, but I've never actually had emotional feelings for someone. I think its just that I havent met the right person, because I'm generally regarded as an antisocial freak.