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Okay, there's something that's been REALLY starting to bug me lately. It has to do with the way women stop talking to you if they're not interested. I go out with plenty of women, so I'm not hung up on any one girl. But the latest incident has proven to be extra annoying.

What I'm talking about is the phony B.S. answers girls give you if they are not interested in you. It can happen at any time. It can happen when you first ask for their number ("I don't have a phone," "I'm never home to answer it." I just moved and haven't gotten the new number yet") or when you ask them for the first date ("My schedule suddenly filled up for the next few months," "I'm on a new diet and I can't eat at that time," "I never get time off of work"), etc... I've heard them all. But the one I HATE HATE HATE HATE is when they just disappear off the face of the earth. They stop returning your calls or emails or whatever. If I don't have any other way to find them, then it's game over at that point.

Okay, I'll get to the point. Recently I've been dating 3 different girls simutaniously. Two of them had no long term potential, but one did. I told the 2 bads that I wan't interested anymore (Honesty in a man! OMG!), and I started to try and get more serious with the one I liked. Well... that was a mistake. We had less in common than I thought. After a few days, she just quit answering my calls. I only call once, maybe twice a day, so it's not like I'm obsessing. It's not even like she was that great. For some reason, the lack of honesty in these situations has REALLY gotten on my nerves as of late.

Why can't girls just SAY that they aren't interested? Why does there always have to be some dumb story or a vow of silence? Some might say they are just being nice by not turning someone down. But dragging your feet because you're afraid you'll hurt someone's feelings is NOT kindness. Any day of the week, I'd rather hear a "No" than a stupid story or nothing at all.

I realize that sometimes these are just tests from women. A lot of wussbags would just take their answers as if they were the truth and/or not have the stones to try something else. I have often scored points with girls for making fun of their lame stories, but that doesn't mean I don't get sick of them. But if the answer really is a NO, why can't they just say it?

What do you guys think?

maybe thats how grown women are.......high schoolers arent really like that

That's very true. Most of the girls I ask out are girls I just run into at college or the mall or restaurants or whatever. We will only see eachother if we both choose to, and that's a big factor I think.

Of course, you highschoolers get the #1 greatest lame line of all time: "Let's just be friends." HAHAHA!

you need to find the right woman
dont do those online dating things, try starting a conversation with someone who u think is intelligent, not just good looking
omg the stuff im saying is gonna bite me in the arss when im old....... =/
im not even good with girls, so i dont think my suggestion is reliable....

its funny, they say the things above when they dont want to hurt your feelings... but it hurts them more cause they had to lie to you...

I know, it's weird, isn't it? Maybe when I was 14 or 15, a simple "I don't like you" or "I'm not interested" would've upset me, but now I would MUCH rather hear that than the B.S. I was talking about.


Oh yeah o-0, 2 of the three girls I was talking about were girls I met online

You are deceiving your wife and your children buy going out with 3 girls simultaneously?

And yes it would be a lot better if they just said no, I don't want to give you my number. Might think that lieing will hurt you less than being blunt and saying it straight.

He's not married... (And 'going out' isn't the same in high school as real life, It just means you've gone on a few dates/get togethers)

I know but it is just that he always goes and sais stuff about his wife and his kids. I was just playing along with his "marriage". Obviously he is not married...

LOL! Stop it! You're making me sound really bad! heheheheh

But that's okay...

its not whether you should get the right girls, you should get their phone number and talk.

I don't like relationships, so I try to stay only friends to as many people as I can. (My dating experiences are bad... Don't ask) Basically, I've found that when you try to stay away from them they come to you. Sound logic, as long as your not overly seclusive. I'm perfectly happy as a hangout buddy than a one woman man.

But I do agree, excuses are pretty much the lamest thing in the world. I'd break a stick over my leg if I had one, just to prove my point.

If you had a stick? Or if you had a leg?

I'm totally fine with relationships... with the right girls. There aren't many girls that are... stable enough for a relationship. I'm pretty picky. I'll go out on a date with just about anyone, but when it comes to longterm potential I get nitpicky. I've just had it up to HERE with the lame excuses... but I give props to the really clever ones

In all fairness, most guys either don't want one or can't handle a relationship.

That's because most guys (I know) think with their balls.

I hate having a lame awnser. Girl think that they're hurting us less when they say that, but in reality, they just hurt a guy even more, because he knows that she dosn't want to hurt him, but she doesn't want him, making him feel useless.

[sub]Just lie untill they like you.[/sub]

Ugh...I could never date a chick.


-_- Such fickle creatures.

Straight from the horse's mouth. Girls know it! Hey Opie, u ever give a lame-arse excuse to a guy? Why was it easier than a simple "no"?

Trust me, you don't want to date men... Men are evil

Let's relive my last break up...

Him: I called you last night. Where were you?
Me: Probably Church. Sorry I didn't get the message.
Him: *acts hurt* Oh. *silence* Want to do something tonight?
Me: No.
Him: Why not?
Me: Because you're a farking psychopath.

no. I'm not usually with the stupid excuses....

I find myself in a nice situation. You see, I don't particularly care about gender (well, as long as it's one or the other), so, should I find myself in said situation, "I'm gay." Doodan, are you really married or single? I thought you were a single dad. In which case, shouldn't you be more focused on raising the kid then chasing tail? That's almost all you seem to make topics about.

w00t! How dare you see God behind his back?! He had every right to be pissed.


I'm single. I never married my boy's mom. She and I broke up (for the last time) almost 4 years ago. I dunno... I was a shy kid until I got some real problems and then things changed for me. I guess I'm making up for my lost youth.

Oh and hey, of course my son is my top priority. If a girl is uncomfortable with my son, then she's toast. He comes first, always, everytime. But being a grown up isn't about acting like a grown up all the time. Adults gotta have fun too.

[sub]Ive used 'Im Gay' atleast once, very funny reactions you get from that. [/sub]

Hmm, I've only ever been dumped once, only because she was too demanding (sex etc), and didn't think I was going far enough, she regrets that decision now though xD! (I've had like 7 girlfriends, all of which I've broken up with them except for said situation)

Man, I was dumped because my present sucked...
I had the perfect present for her too... Family guy season 1 but it was sold out, so I got her a crummy necklace.

I never get girls presents... unless it's something I can coat in chocolate.