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I'm sure many of us are aware of it, but it's the soft approach to raising children. It challenges the old firm way of handling children.

For instance, my uncle and my aunt use their neo-generation parenting on their child. When my mother walked up to the child, the child started crying. My uncle's and aunt's response? They shelter their child saying, "It's best not to rush it, it may traumatize her." Now, all of us were once little kids, and if our parents wanted us to do something, we did not have a choice. If our relatives wanted to come to us, we would cry, but certainly, most of our parents pushed us forward. Are we traumatized? I don't think so.

Also, because of this neo-generation parenting, many parents are now afraid to punish their children in public. A man on the news said that he was in the park and became firm with his child because he was misbehaving, but then a woman came up to him saying that she would report him for child abuse.

We can see it everywhere, a kid doesn't want to do something, so the parents give in. This has been going on for about five years, and if you look at the kids that are of the neo-generation parents, they tend to be very bratty and believe they can get away with every single thing they do, because the parents are just too weak to punish them, it's sickening.

So what happened to the old parenting? Instead of punishment, I'm seeing negotiations. I'm not saying bring back the days where a kid could be smacked with a ruler in school, but I'm asking where has the parenting gone where kids would get punished and were treated firmly if they misbehaved? Has anybody else noticed this new trend of parenting?

God, I hate those softy parents too. If my son does something that isn't terribly bad, I will lower my voice and explain to him why he shouldn't do that (where applicable). But if he does something really bad, or something he should just know better than (like spinning around and laughing with an open bottle of blue gatorade on the carpet), then his butt will be raw. I try to think of myself as a territorial father gorilla sometimes.

if you grow up in a 100% bacteria-free enviroment, eating ONLY healthy food, see ONLY good & happyness, when you will leave this shelter you will get sick cuz your immune system is not properly working, your stomache won't handle the food that we eat, you will be depressed after you see something bad. the same with this method of raising children.

TO BECOME STRONGER (in any way) = TO EXPERIENCE PAIN/NEGATIVE INFLUENCE.

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I can't agree more though, parents are too soft because this nation is a 'let others take care of your own problems but take care of others problems' society. Aka sue happy and never assuming responsibility. If the kid does something unknowingly wrong, just a reprimand, or if it's serious, a scold. If he blatently disobeys, it's time for a light fwap on the wrist. If you're in a public place, and the kid wants to make a scene, let it. If you give in, you're only weakening your control on the child.

Edit: Oh, and never raise your voice on the first or second offense.

Noticed it, hate it. In school I hear all the time stories of how my classmates go up to their parents and disobey them outright. It's neglect on the parents side. If I did that.. *shudder*.

Child: I want to do drugs!
Parent: Ok, Honey!

Well, it's not that far yet, but it's getting closer and closer.

I dont think that parents would say OK to drugs... because obviously it has a negative side effect and anything negative to their kids is EVIL and BAD! My mother looks after these 2 kids.... man... they have been so sheltered its insane. They have been so sheltered all they do all day is sit and watch tv because they dont know anything else, they walk veeeerry slowly, like baby steps no matter where they go, they NEVER walk fast, and I can swear that they are gay. When the time comes that they face an obstacle in their lives and their parents arent there, they are gunna have a real hard time I can tell you that. I feel really sorry for the kids on how they've been raised...

I met someone similar at tennis practice; kept speaking about how it isn't funny when you get hurt and the like, and because I hold people like that in low regard and don't speak to them, he later asked me to be his friend. It's like he got everything from a book like Bambi.. very creepy.

My mom had the look. And the occasional pinch or two every when ever I was acting like the little illegitimate child I was.

This sickens me to a level previously reserved to an unceremoneously burried pirate.

I thank God every day that my dad punched me in the face when I was being a brat.

It gave me the following advantages in life;

• I haven't cried since before I was born.
• I have no emotion for others in a similar situation.
• I am physically incapable of being bruised.
• My nose is smaller, and my jaw squarer.
• I can take a hit and not go down.

The last one may seem odd, but here's the thing after getting use to my dad punching me, kids don't phase me.

And my dad is no lightweight, he's a former bouncer and proffesional lacrosse player when he hit me, I felt it.

I don't think they need to always hit their kids, it depends on what the kids do. if it's some really freaking dumb crap, and nothing else seems to get a point across, yeah.

I'd use a mix of both.

As falcon said, it's a mix of both. You don't want to be too hard on the kid, nor be too sheltered on it, but you don't want to let it run free and have no rules.

Nothing a little backhand wont fix. Make sure to add a nice snap to your wrist for a good stinging effect.

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My parents have my sister spoiled, she gets what she wants, stays up all night and stuff. She won't eat or drink anything like milk or eat sandwiches, she eats oreos and drinks soda.
Whenever she doesn't get something she wants, she cries, and my parents give in. And yes, she's almost 3 and sleeping in the same bed as her parents.

Wait.. A three year old eats oreo's and drinks soda? Sick.

Your parents have failed her deathhawk, you must take matters into your own hands.
Yes, this should involve explosives.

Use fear.

heh i joke with my parents and say ill call the dss on the