Report, edit, etc...Posted by Kow on 2006-07-08 at 00:18:37
Okay, so my girlfriend is bi. It's been good and all, not really affecting anything we do, but a couple nights ago, we talked and she said she wanted to start dating girls as well as me. I tried getting a reason why, and she really didn't have one. "I just have this urge to date girls", she says. We talked more after that about it and never really came to any conclusion or agreement.
So I just got home from a party that she was supposed to come to, but her mom made her go to work with her, so she couldn't. This is after setting up rides etc, and saying that she wanted to go hang out with an 'old friend' of hers, whom 'she'd not seen in forever' (which I know for a fact that she'd seen her 2 months ago, but still it's not THAT short of a time). She was gonna go to the party for 3 or so hours and then head to a concert with the girl (who is a lesbian and my girlfriend said she had a 'crush' on her), but then she told me that she had to go to her mom's work, so I figured those plans were dashed too. Judging by her away message though, she went with her to the concert anyway, when she could have still made it to the party for a long time.
I wouldn't really mind if we'd seen each other non-stop or nearly non-stop, but I've not seen her in near a month because of transportation issues. This really makes me feel 'worthless' in her eyes, and that she'd want to go somewhere with someone she has a crush on over somone whom she claims she loves.
I suppose the main problem, though, is that she wans to date girls as well as me, which, to me, is basically cheating on me. I'm a very jealous person, and frankly, what can a girl do that I can't?
On top of this, she's been doing drugs with a friend of hers (whom I can safely say is the only person I hate, as she's corrupted several friends of mine already, with drugs and sex).
I just wanted to get this off my chest and onto something tangible.
So I just got home from a party that she was supposed to come to, but her mom made her go to work with her, so she couldn't. This is after setting up rides etc, and saying that she wanted to go hang out with an 'old friend' of hers, whom 'she'd not seen in forever' (which I know for a fact that she'd seen her 2 months ago, but still it's not THAT short of a time). She was gonna go to the party for 3 or so hours and then head to a concert with the girl (who is a lesbian and my girlfriend said she had a 'crush' on her), but then she told me that she had to go to her mom's work, so I figured those plans were dashed too. Judging by her away message though, she went with her to the concert anyway, when she could have still made it to the party for a long time.
I wouldn't really mind if we'd seen each other non-stop or nearly non-stop, but I've not seen her in near a month because of transportation issues. This really makes me feel 'worthless' in her eyes, and that she'd want to go somewhere with someone she has a crush on over somone whom she claims she loves.
I suppose the main problem, though, is that she wans to date girls as well as me, which, to me, is basically cheating on me. I'm a very jealous person, and frankly, what can a girl do that I can't?
On top of this, she's been doing drugs with a friend of hers (whom I can safely say is the only person I hate, as she's corrupted several friends of mine already, with drugs and sex).
I just wanted to get this off my chest and onto something tangible.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Do-0dan on 2006-07-08 at 00:35:47
I think you influenced your gf with your looks... She was probably so used to looking at your feminine face that she wanted to go for others with feminine faces 
GL with that
GL with that
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Doodan on 2006-07-08 at 00:38:08
F*** her. My boy's mom thought she was a lesbian for a while. I used to be open minded about gays, but now I'm a lot less forgiving. My boy's mom would just vanish when we'd arranged to meet so she could see our son. I'd find out later that she'd opted to chase skirt instead. She's worse than me sometimes.
NO FORGIVENESS!!!
NO FORGIVENESS!!!
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Kow on 2006-07-08 at 00:42:01
QUOTE(Do-0dan @ Jul 8 2006, 12:35 AM)
I think you influenced your gf with your looks... She was probably so used to looking at your feminine face that she wanted to go for others with feminine faces
GL with that
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GL with that
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Not hah.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Mini Moose 2707 on 2006-07-08 at 01:06:43
If she wants to date other girls.... so do you my friend.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Kow on 2006-07-08 at 01:11:23
I was gonna introduce that point to her if she presses the issue further.
Edit: or whenever the topic comes up again
Edit: or whenever the topic comes up again
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Deathawk on 2006-07-08 at 01:22:01
That's clever.
Give her an ultimatum!
Give her an ultimatum!
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Do-0dan on 2006-07-08 at 01:31:32
Show her why it'd be better to stay with a guy than a girl 
Report, edit, etc...Posted by DT_Battlekruser on 2006-07-08 at 01:38:45
QUOTE
I suppose the main problem, though, is that she wans to date girls as well as me, which, to me, is basically cheating on me. I'm a very jealous person, and frankly, what can a girl do that I can't?
On top of this, she's been doing drugs with a friend of hers (whom I can safely say is the only person I hate, as she's corrupted several friends of mine already, with drugs and sex).
On top of this, she's been doing drugs with a friend of hers (whom I can safely say is the only person I hate, as she's corrupted several friends of mine already, with drugs and sex).
Yeah, it really isn't any different than dating other guys..
Time to get rid of her..
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Kame on 2006-07-08 at 01:41:24
I agree with Moose. You guys have talked about preferences...so unless you're comfortable with it, state it simply : it'll be only you or not you at all.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Xeno on 2006-07-08 at 01:55:21
There's always the option that you could hit her.
It will make her love you more. That's how women work.
It will make her love you more. That's how women work.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Kow on 2006-07-08 at 01:56:57
Haha <3 Xeno *hit*
Thing is, I love her and I'd do anything not to have her leave me.
Thing is, I love her and I'd do anything not to have her leave me.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Mini Moose 2707 on 2006-07-08 at 02:03:19
And she's going to catch on, and you're going to become a doormat. If you like being used and manipulated, that's quite a setup you've got.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Kow on 2006-07-08 at 02:04:36
I'm not gonna be a doormat, I'd not allow that. I'd break up with her before that happened.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Tuxedo Templar on 2006-07-08 at 02:58:10
Well get another bi girlfriend, and everyone's happy. 
Seriously though, if she wishes to be promiscuous and you do not, it's probably not wise to try and force a relationship. Unless you can either except her promiscuity, and get some assurances it won't cause future problems, you should probably dump her. Just like BT said: It's no different than if she's going out with other guys.
That's my 2 1/2 cents. I'm no relationship expert but at least I can use logic.
Seriously though, if she wishes to be promiscuous and you do not, it's probably not wise to try and force a relationship. Unless you can either except her promiscuity, and get some assurances it won't cause future problems, you should probably dump her. Just like BT said: It's no different than if she's going out with other guys.
That's my 2 1/2 cents. I'm no relationship expert but at least I can use logic.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Demaris on 2006-07-08 at 04:06:58
QUOTE(Kow @ Jul 7 2006, 10:18 PM)
Okay, so my girlfriend is bi. It's been good and all, not really affecting anything we do, but a couple nights ago, we talked and she said she wanted to start dating girls as well as me. I tried getting a reason why, and she really didn't have one. "I just have this urge to date girls", she says. We talked more after that about it and never really came to any conclusion or agreement.
So I just got home from a party that she was supposed to come to, but her mom made her go to work with her, so she couldn't. This is after setting up rides etc, and saying that she wanted to go hang out with an 'old friend' of hers, whom 'she'd not seen in forever' (which I know for a fact that she'd seen her 2 months ago, but still it's not THAT short of a time). She was gonna go to the party for 3 or so hours and then head to a concert with the girl (who is a lesbian and my girlfriend said she had a 'crush' on her), but then she told me that she had to go to her mom's work, so I figured those plans were dashed too. Judging by her away message though, she went with her to the concert anyway, when she could have still made it to the party for a long time.
I wouldn't really mind if we'd seen each other non-stop or nearly non-stop, but I've not seen her in near a month because of transportation issues. This really makes me feel 'worthless' in her eyes, and that she'd want to go somewhere with someone she has a crush on over somone whom she claims she loves.
I suppose the main problem, though, is that she wans to date girls as well as me, which, to me, is basically cheating on me. I'm a very jealous person, and frankly, what can a girl do that I can't?
On top of this, she's been doing drugs with a friend of hers (whom I can safely say is the only person I hate, as she's corrupted several friends of mine already, with drugs and sex).
I just wanted to get this off my chest and onto something tangible.
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So I just got home from a party that she was supposed to come to, but her mom made her go to work with her, so she couldn't. This is after setting up rides etc, and saying that she wanted to go hang out with an 'old friend' of hers, whom 'she'd not seen in forever' (which I know for a fact that she'd seen her 2 months ago, but still it's not THAT short of a time). She was gonna go to the party for 3 or so hours and then head to a concert with the girl (who is a lesbian and my girlfriend said she had a 'crush' on her), but then she told me that she had to go to her mom's work, so I figured those plans were dashed too. Judging by her away message though, she went with her to the concert anyway, when she could have still made it to the party for a long time.
I wouldn't really mind if we'd seen each other non-stop or nearly non-stop, but I've not seen her in near a month because of transportation issues. This really makes me feel 'worthless' in her eyes, and that she'd want to go somewhere with someone she has a crush on over somone whom she claims she loves.
I suppose the main problem, though, is that she wans to date girls as well as me, which, to me, is basically cheating on me. I'm a very jealous person, and frankly, what can a girl do that I can't?
On top of this, she's been doing drugs with a friend of hers (whom I can safely say is the only person I hate, as she's corrupted several friends of mine already, with drugs and sex).
I just wanted to get this off my chest and onto something tangible.
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You ARE a.... wait, nevermind.
Methinks it's time to move on.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Mp)Excalibur on 2006-07-08 at 04:12:42
Kow you should TOTALLY walk down the street with your arm around Demaris, shed be so jealous shed be like
"OMFG I GOT GG'd PLZ TAKE ME BACK"
I know thats what id say if i was a bi chick cheeting on you and saw you with Demaris.
-DB
"OMFG I GOT GG'd PLZ TAKE ME BACK"
I know thats what id say if i was a bi chick cheeting on you and saw you with Demaris.
-DB
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Demaris on 2006-07-08 at 04:13:39
QUOTE(DarkBlood(MC) @ Jul 8 2006, 02:12 AM)
Kow you should TOTALLY walk down the street with your arm around Demaris, shed be so jealous shed be like
"OMFG I GOT GG'd PLZ TAKE ME BACK"
I know thats what id say if i was a bi chick cheeting on you and saw you with Demaris.
-DB
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"OMFG I GOT GG'd PLZ TAKE ME BACK"
I know thats what id say if i was a bi chick cheeting on you and saw you with Demaris.
-DB
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I....uhh....don't even know how to respond to that.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Mp)Excalibur on 2006-07-08 at 04:19:00
QUOTE(Demaris @ Jul 8 2006, 03:13 AM)
I....uhh....don't even know how to respond to that.
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Just nod and smile.....nod and smile....
Hey does this smell like chlorophorm to you? *Smothers face with rag*
*Drags demaris to Moose's SEN janitor closet, strange noises ensue...*
-DB
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Kenoli on 2006-07-08 at 04:36:33
QUOTE(Kow)
Thing is, I love her and I'd do anything not to have her leave me.
QUOTE(Kow)
I'm not gonna be a doormat, I'd not allow that. I'd break up with her before that happened.
Lololololol etc.Report, edit, etc...Posted by Wilhelm on 2006-07-08 at 05:16:06
Pff. Dump her.
For your reference: I'm still single.
For your reference: I'm still single.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Rantent on 2006-07-08 at 06:55:03
Well you said you were having trouble seeing here recently, as she lived far away and you didn't have a car. Less interaction draws people apart.
As for helping you solve this, I don't really know what to say, best end it with a high note. I don't see how seeing multiple people at once will end happily.
As for helping you solve this, I don't really know what to say, best end it with a high note. I don't see how seeing multiple people at once will end happily.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Kow on 2006-07-08 at 08:00:07
Well, I've talked to her and, unless she's lieing to me, which I'll assume she's not, the whole party absence thing was clarified. Apparently, there was bad timing on her part getting home from the work and due to her ignorance of exactly where the host's house is, she opted for the concert. Bad timing 'cause when she got home, the girl she was gonna go to the concert with was already there, pretty much at her house (or street).
And @ Kenoli: I suppose it should be almost anything.
And @ Kenoli: I suppose it should be almost anything.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by JaFF on 2006-07-08 at 13:28:31
You are 15 years old, Kow ? If so: at this age, love can appear and dissapear. Don't let it bother your life - your life is only taking shape. I think serious relationships should be made later.
So, don't take it so seriously, or forget her.
So, don't take it so seriously, or forget her.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Mr.Camo on 2006-07-08 at 13:53:18
Kow: Imagine the possibilities if she starts dating girls also! (my view)
As moose said "If she wants to date other girls.... so do you my friend."
As moose said "If she wants to date other girls.... so do you my friend."