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Ok, well. Today my gf told me to do something... lets just say 'rebellious'. Now im not the kind of guy that would normally do that sort of thing, and it set a spark off in my mind and made me think whether i should be doing this (going out with her) or not. I relize that this is the same road a relative of mine is going down, or how it kinda started, but they are now a stoner, has no education lined up, doesnt know what he's going to do tomorrow, he got fired (or quit i dunno) by skipping work and a few other things. Now i'm planning to talk to her but i dont know how i should go about this. I could always get out of it, for my sake not letting her influence me, but if i do that, she'll just slip farther down. I started to 'like' her because i thought she was the innocent type of girl. My other choice is to stay with her and try to help her, and if alls well then id stay with her.

Im divided on choices. Help?

Tell her you're not comfortable with it. If she thinks less of you, then she isn't right for you, and you should let her go. It's not your problem if she slips farther down. If you're really worried about it, you can tell her parents. In other words, move on. There is no reason to be attached to someone when you're 14.

Not my problem? There will always be the 'i could have done something' thought.

Plus im 15, not that it makes a difference lol.

The things she wants you to do will ruin your life. Seriously. Don't touch the shyt and if she has a problem with that its not exactly who you are she wants which will never make the relationship strong.

No, there won't. Trust me. You havn't told me what it is that she's asked you to do yet, but I'm going on a limb and guess it's drugs or theft. Either way, the only effective thing you can do is to tell her parents. It's not your job to supervise her 24/7, like you're her damn mother. If you really don't want her to do it, but you also want to stay with her, tell her "me or 'insert evil deed here'", and then stay true to your word. Don't waste your time on people who don't like you enough to give up things that you feel are asking for trouble.

All in all, I think this is a pretty easy throw away you've got here.

PS: Not all druggies are dead beat losers. A lot work just as hard as anyone else. It's a lifestyle choice they find suits them.

I feel that. Just don't get her knocked up.

<---- Speaking from experience.

I'd stay with her and try to get her away from that kind of crap. personally i see it as drug users have no future

Personally I see you haven't seen enough yet. I know people who do drugs all day and earn some big cash, have a sexy gf and go well with life like this.

And sure there are others who do drugs all day that go down with it.

And it depends alot on the drug and the person. And btw, alcohol is as worse as some of those illegal drugs (also depending on how much you drink, who you are, and so on).

But I think drugs have always been part of the society. And I don't just go and say you take drugs - you'r lost.

Even if you fall down with them - everyone deserves and usually gets a second chance so it can still come to the good.

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And if you never touched them yet don't touch them now for sure! Same with alcohol and cigarettes which are just legal but drugs.

But anyways you could be overrun by a car tomorrow which I don't hope n'or expect but it's possible so life isn't healthy, you will get older and slower and so on you know. And we all have to die some day. That's just how it is.

i know a bunch of people like that you will never convince her to quit

Well it's over...

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