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Well, I really didn't feel like talking about love then scrolling up and realizing the topic was "Internet Porn" so I'm gonna start a new thread. Love is a commonly used word, many people that have just met and dated for a few weeks use it constantly. I truly have no idea if I am in love or not, is there any way to tell? Is it just another controversial issue that has no end or answer? There's no signs to let you know that this person is the one for you. Any advice?

When you get to the point that you would give away anything, even your life, to have non-stop 24 hour hardcore sex with one.

If you're not sure you're in love, you aren't.

That's not entirely true Psy.

Love, is an overused word. People use it to express pretty much everything.

But the emotion is really hard to tell (at least for me)

Like Vamp said, lol. If you would give anything to be with the person the rest of your life, then that counts, too.

Example: You would die for the person. You would never cheat on the person. You have extreme feelings for the person. You would do anything to keep the person.... The list goes on and on...... (Got myself all depressed now, lol)

I have only been in love once, and I think i'm falling in love again. I don't use the word love enless I mean it.

The first chick I fell in love with, was a freshman when I was a junior. At first when she told me she thought she was falling in love with me, I didn't know what to do. Tell her that I am falling in love with her, too? Or tell her I don't have those feelings for her at this time, and jepadize my relationship. I went with the first one, and instantly fell head over heels for this chick.

Then on April 14th (Started going out in November, she moved away, we still talked, she moved back) we had our first "intimate" experience (We had done things sexual before, but not sex)

And then I screwed everything up by telling her that I loved her so much, and I didn't want to lose her, but I thought I was falling in love with another chick that I didn't even know personally! (Infatuations blow) Well somehow, that screwed everything up, cause on April 20th (420!!!!) she dumped me... And for no reason, too. Then I tried my hardest to get her back, but alas, I could not (which was probibly a good thing)

The chick I think i'm falling in love with, lives in Missouri (Near Brandson. She still hasn't told me exactly where, damn her! >.<) And I have known her for about maybe a month now, not even that. And whenever we talk, it's just like, WoW! I could spend the rest of my life with this chick! She is very attractive, she has a nice voice (Yahoo voice chat is the shit!) and she likes some of the same things I do. And she even told me that I was the type of man she would like to lose her virginity to!

I heard that and I was like, Yeeeah! lol. But I dunno.

All I have to say is, just wait it out and if you have stronger feelings for the chick then you have had with others, it's love.

Vamp said nothing about spending the rest of your life, he was babbling about sex!

Anyways, I like your point. And I also wanted to discuss the love that grows between friends. When you've known someone for such a long time and you two help each other everyday, then isn't that also love?

I know, that's why I put the lol, then proceded to say the other thing.

Yes, that is love, but not the kind of love I was talking about. If you have a friend that is a girl, then that kind of love can develop (as it has for me)

Yeah, I've had that happen to me a few times too. And its terrible when you see this person everyday. You have so many chances to tell them that you have deeper feelings for them, and hanging out with them everyday can make you fall even farther in love. It sucks, it truly does, especially if you're already in a relationship

Yeah that would suck. Do you like the person you're going out with now? Cause I would tell you to do this: Tell your friend your feelings, and if it's mutual, dump your current gf and go with the chick you love. But if she doesn't like you that way, just stay as friends cause them maybe eventually, she will realise that you are the one she has been looking for (Or something to that affect)

Well, the girl I'm with right now is everything I've ever wanted. It's just sometimes feelings for my friends just appear and then dissapear randomly. I don't know if I actually love the second girl, I just you know "like like" her. But I think I'm begining to fall in love with the girl I'm in a relationship with currently. It's such an annoying word. But when she says "I love you", what am I supposed to do? Tell her I don't love her back...yet? Crush her heart?

Tell her you are not sure of your feelings for her. Don't say you love her back. If you do (Like me, that was dumb and i'm lucky I DID fall in love with her) and then you find out you don't you will only crush her heart in the end. So my advice is to just tell her that you want to love her, but you're not sure if you do yet.

That's the best this lonely 18 year old can give you

You have me kell,

Very nice answer Kame, what is this "corthinians"?

People get love mixed up with lust.

Lust is where you're like "Omfg you're beautiful" and you'd want to do her. It's really about you, not her.
Love is where you actually care about her and want her to be safe and happy.

If I'm not mistaking, that's part of the Holy Bible.

I thought I was in love once back in Junior High... girl dumped me unexpectedly. Ever since then I've never "fallen in love" with a girl, I just want .

Well...of course you do, I don't blame you. I once thought I was in love with a girl, turned out she'd been with other guys while she was out of town. So she dumps me, which I found kinda dumb. Anyways, after that, I never wanted to be in a relationship ever again, but then I realized its not all women who will cheat on you and leave you for someone else and leave you stranded with no one at your side!!!

Bullshit... the moment that you don't spend every damn minute with her or don't buy her every damn thing she wants, or talk to her every damn second, she is going to go out and get with some other guy that will "listen" to her and shit like that.

I think you're just exaggerating women's needs. You don't have to buy a girl nice things, or give her lots of attention, just talk to her. YOU should be the guy that listens to her. The worst of all is letting games get in your way. The only time me and my girlfriend get in a fight is if we're talking online and I'm playing sc as we speak, and she ends up signing off without me saying bye. So give her attention but not too much, don't get obsessed. The emotion of love is powerful, don't let it overtake it, but don't completely destroy it and ignore it.

I agree to an extent. If you don't pay attention to some women, they don't care about you.

I guess that's what I have been missing out on...

Guess I better quit being a Pussy and start talking to them...

Well, yes thats some women, and I'm glad you used the word some. Yeah, try talking to em more often, not just when a good topic is at hand, but when any topic is at hand. Debate with her, learn about her, find her interests, use knowing her interests as an advantage. If you know she likes scary movies, rent one and ask her if she wants to watch it at your/her place. If she likes surfing or just swimming (and if you don't know how), go a little late, so you don't have time to get into the water. Then you guys can get some nice alone time watching the sunset from a great view!

It may work for you, but for me, it won't. For two reasons.

Reason One. I'm to ugly. I try my hardest to be nice to all girls (which I am) and I know all the ones I like, very well. But it's just "We don't like you that way" crap that they feed me. There is this super hot chick that wants a steady boyfriend (I have seen her but she hasn't seen me) and I had a friend tell her about me. But with my luck, she's going to take one look at me and give the cross sign...

Reason Two. I cannot talk to girls what so ever. Every girl I am friends with (minusing ones off the internet) have been introduced to me, or I have been introduced to them. I'm to big of a Pussy...........

This entire topic is bull-

I mean Jesus Christ, you KNOW when your in love. You just do. Of course if you've never fell in love, It's probably harder to understand...

Yes, Corinthians is found in the Bible. its a letter Paul sent to the churches of Corinth. Wohoo.

That is true.

I know some people however, that when they think they're in love, it's actually lust; it's probably because the chick they see is strikingly beautiful or hot and they basically just want to do them.

Thats really true, they think they're in love, but when they actually do fall in love, they'll know that they just made him...hot.