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This is under serious discussion because I want serious answers. Think hard. Very hard. Answers such as, "well, I wouldn't love someone like that so it wouldn't matter to me" does not count

You marry the woman of your dreams. A few months later, she becomes pregnant and gives birth to a healthy girl. You name her Maria for scenario purposes. Four years later, your wife and you get into a fight. It starts small, but a bit of tension has been building up. You mention something about not fighting around your child (who is trying to sleep down the hall) and she says that Maria isn't even your child.

The next day (for the record, you slept on the couch) she apologizes to you, and tells you that it wasn't true and that she said it in a fit of rage. Unsure, you persuade her to take a paternity test. The results come back, and you are not the biological father of Maria.

What would you do?

Ask who the f*ck is Jessica?

God sorry, I changed it from Jessica because it reminded me of J Lo and she's not too intelligent. let me fix that Jessica should say Maria

Hmm, an interesting problem here. It depends on how blamed I get. I might go for divorce. I wouldn't be able to continue living with my wife after I learned that she's been...well, cheating? lying? to me for so long. The fact that she isn't my biological child shouldn't change whether or not I love my child, I've raised her myself after all.

But, assuming I'd be really really blamed, and I probably will be, I'd probably do something irrational and stupid, like just leave in the middle of the night. And never to return to them kind of thing. Maybe leave a letter or a note of some sort. Probably not, as if I'm blamed enough to suddenly leave, I'd be too blamed to write anything.

Would you still support Maria, like send money?

Well, that is something that will end in a bad way no matter what.

What I would do is:

I would grab Maria, and get out. I would leave my wife standing there. I could care less about how she feels(seeing that she just betrayed me). Then, once I clear my head out, I would apply for a divorce, and get FULL custody of the child. Once I had full custody over my(oe the other guy's) child, I would wait until she is old enough and I would tell her the truth.

Hmm, file divorce. Don't fight for custody of the child, because it isn't even yours in the first place. I don't think you have to pay child support unless your wife doesn't work. But definetly get away from her, and have nothing to do with her, because you can't trust her. Come to see Maria often, because you can't just take a girls "father" away.

Through experience, I know you can never hate somebody you once loved. Therefore, though I would likely be outraged, I would investigate whether or not she is still cheating on me. It is four years prior to the birth, after all. If she still is, it's a no-brainer, divorce. But if she isn't, well, if God can fogive my sins, I can forgive hers. If we were divorced, like I said, I'd still care for her and settle for joint-custody, and pay child-support if she needed it.

OFF TOPIC: Kame, what about Metrosexuals?

I would be outraged for obvious reasons, that's for sure. I would actually want some money back from the mom, considering I spent a lot of money on what I thought was my child, but then I would remember that in court women always end out on top, so then I would have wasted even MORE money on a lawyer, also have to pay the lawyer for the divorce, then I wouldn't have a house to live in because even though I invested more money in it, the court technically would give the house to the woman, also considering she has a child, therefore costing me more money and my house. Then I would be pretty much broke with no money at all, I would try to move back in with my parents, however, my mom wouldn't let me come back, therefore I would have to live in my hunk-o-junk car, which would result in odd sleeping paterns, therefore causing me to be late for work, also having nowhere to shower, technically setting me in a state of poverty once I lose my job, therefore I have lost everything: My family, my house, my wife, my job, my career, my life. Knowing that I no longer have anything to live for, I take a belt, to it to a flagstaff on the top of a building, tie it around my neck and jump off.

Ditto.

Now you know that that was exagerated. Don't try and hide it.

I would not hold anything against the child. I would probably end up swearing a little and eventually punch a tree or blow up an oil barrel to vent rage. Than everything would be fine.

I would not support the child at all. Its not even mine, let the right dad support it.

Why would my so called wife would do something like this to me, Then i would get angrey the more i think about it.
I would file for divoice, I would not want nothing to do with her, Nor the child.. Tell truth.

I'd get a divorce and support the child. I don't think I'd be able to stay in the same house (too much anger), but since I raised the child, I would send money and visit her often.

I'd leave her forever and let her have the burden of raising the child by herself.

So After about 5 years of raising and loving child of your own you just up and leave to never see again and the child still thinks that your the father either way so why end it there. Of Course with the wife id divorce her

Woa, big one.
First, don't grab the old double barrel shotgun and shoot her. That'd mess maria up more than leaving would.
Second, wait and see what happens. If you think through the mess of junk to your core feelings and wants, you'll know what to do.
Personaly, I'd wait, see what else my wife had to say. If she told me who, when, why, and other details, then maybe i'd consider staying. Maria, having raised her for 4-5 years, i might fight for visitation rights should I get a divorce.
Also, if I opted for divorce, I'd get a local news paper to announce it. (Rubbing salt in her wounds.)
Just don't swear like a marine in front of your daughter, it might ruin her vocabulary

I'd be excremented at my wife and possibly file for divorce, with custody of the child. However, if I did not gain custody of the child, I wouldn't have to send child support, since the child wouldn't be mine.

I would be outraged. I would feel complete sorrow, and would break down and cry (Away from my wife and kid)

I would go find myself some of the best weed that I could possibly find, smoke myself into a stoned stupor, go into the middle of the mountiains and meditate.

I would then come back, find myself some mushrooms or acid, and go into a week long trip in the middle of the mountains (All after explaining to my wife that I will be gone for a week to get my head straight, that I still love her, and i'm very, very disapointed in her, and I hope while she is gone she doesn't do anymore of that stupid blam) and try to get everything sorted out. I would ponder my feelings, and look deep within myself, and meditate hardcore to get back in tune with nature.

Then by that time I would have decided if divorce was necesary or not.

If I divorced I would support the child even though it wasn't mine (I would love the child so therefor I would help the child out) and I would fight for custody of the child.

I would love my wife, but I would hate her with a passion at the same time.

P.S. and Off Topic: This new filter is dumb as bricks

Well it depends. Did she give birth to the baby a couple months in? Or did she begin getting pregnant? That can affect the scenario.

I'd try to reconcile, leaving would scar the child for life. I'd not find who the real father is, seeings how that might create more tensions if it was someone I know.

She gave birth about a year after marriage; she found she was pregnant two months in.

Okay. That doesnt Affect my decision. (If it was 2 months in that she gave birth, you MIGHT not have been the father because of a previous... relationship, that's the word.

If you read above you will see that is says you marry the women of your dreams.

Now take a short while to ponder this. Do you meet the girl of your dreams and marry her right away? Usually not. So therefor, she HAD to have cheated on you while you guys were married because she got pregnant DURING your marriage.

How long does it take to have the baby after conception? *doesn't know so uses Kame's time thingy she posted earlier*

10 Months (Pregnant 2 months in, Birht 1 year in)

People meet, date, and marry in 8 months. I've seen it. So it doesnt REALLY rule out anything, unless Kame states otherwise....

Women are usually pregnant for nine months. Does that help?