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Report, edit, etc...Posted by Ninebreaker on 2006-07-05 at 00:57:33

This topic is directed mostly to the older part of SEN (16+) Because most teens like me 15 or below will think its good and there arent negatives.

Is teen dating good or bad? Why? What are the negatives and postives? Is it better to be 'just friends'?

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Mp)7-7 on 2006-07-05 at 01:03:19

Pros
Finding what you want
Finding what you dont want
Knowing Love
Maturity
Possibility of no drugs (taking time away from possibilties)

Cons
Teen Sex
Possibility of Drugs (spouce may be drug addict)

Overall Teen Dating is okay but what it may lead to could be very bad, Everyone does, not like you can stop it, the ages will only go down.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by CheeZe on 2006-07-05 at 01:04:30

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Knowing Love

Umm.. no? You have no idea what love is until you're much older.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Mini Moose 2707 on 2006-07-05 at 01:05:23

If the kids are mature enough, I see no reason not to. Its natural.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Mp)7-7 on 2006-07-05 at 01:05:36

Yes you could! I did when I was in 7th grade!

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Mini Moose 2707 on 2006-07-05 at 01:08:38

I'm not saying that it isn't possible, but that would probably be infatuation. It really depends on your definition of love.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Mp)7-7 on 2006-07-05 at 01:13:14

Umm okay, I have a girlfriend now and not being over the one I had in 7th grade is a problem. I still love the girlfriend I had in 7th grade, believe me I have had plenty of time to think about it, It has been this long (4 years) and I am stil not over her even though ill never see her again, because she moved to New York.

P.S. I have been dating this other girl for a little over 9 months, wich you think would stop me from liking another girl right, i dont feel anything like I did in 7th grade, now I am a junior in high school!

And if you think I am making this up go to this topic!

http://www.staredit.net/index.php?showtopic=31829&st=20

this is what I wrote!

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I have had my heart broken, I fought for this girl a whole school year in 7th grade, I never had the guts to ask her out but I flirted and did what everyone does, we were like best friends, and i loved her even though! Last two months of school she came over and we watched a movie and we did stuff, and she asked me out, I was like YAAAAH! Then to find out like a week later she was moving, ugh! A couple days after the last day of school she moved to New York and I live in Maine, have never seen her since, and it has been about 4 years, I miss her and still love her because i liked her for soo long and we broke up only because of distance and we still talk on myspace and stuff, but it will never be the same, i feel like she was the one and it just sucks!!!! I feel you man! love sometimes does suck, especially the first which in my case was in seventh grade, now in 11th, I didnt go out with anyone until 10th grade after what happened, i guess i was scared it would happen again!

Report, edit, etc...Posted by DT_Battlekruser on 2006-07-05 at 02:04:40

QUOTE(Mini Moose 2707 @ Jul 4 2006, 10:05 PM)

If the kids are mature enough, I see no reason not to. Its natural.
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Yes, it's all about maturity not age. I was going to say "define dating", because I hardly find walking down school hallways with mouths melded to be healthy for people of any age.

Sadly, the maturity rate in people under 25 continues to drop like a rock. Little do such people see, there's more to life and certainly more to love than sex.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Ninebreaker on 2006-07-05 at 02:07:59

QUOTE(DT_Battlekruser @ Jul 5 2006, 12:04 AM)

1st part: Completely right. There's a big difference between the 'im better than you, i have a girlfriend' relationship than actually loving someone...

2nd part: I blame media, again , completely right.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by SOngo on 2006-07-05 at 02:25:41

There is a differnce between lust and love, and many people don't understand it. like when you see a girl and like your like i love her no you lust for her, thats why love at first site isn't real. in my opinion love is acceptance when two people accept each other for who they are and like each other. but thats just me >.>

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Mp)7-7 on 2006-07-05 at 02:29:13

LUST, LOVE, and INFATUATION are basically the same and people could be mixed up when people dont know the differences. They could all be mistaken from each other, It takes maturity and knowledge to know the difference, Which I am mature and smart!

Report, edit, etc...Posted by wesmic da pimp on 2006-07-05 at 02:30:46

Then why did you just say they're all basically the same? I honestly think you have no clue what you're talking about, you just think you do. Teen Dating has nothing to do with love. It's spending time with someone that you're attracted to emotionally/physically.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Mp)7-7 on 2006-07-05 at 02:32:27

Oops, I meant to say that they are similar and that people could be confused between them, I am sorry, That does sound Funny, Ill change it, yes I do know the difference between them.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by wesmic da pimp on 2006-07-05 at 02:35:18

Obviously you don't, I'm not trying to start an arguement here, but you don't know near as much as you think you do.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by SOngo on 2006-07-05 at 02:39:41

QUOTE(wesmic da pimp @ Jul 5 2006, 01:30 AM)

spending time with someone that you're attracted to emotionally/physically.
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which is basically acceptance?.......................................

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Cruzo on 2006-07-05 at 03:09:25

I don't see why not. If you have feelings for someone then you should go for it. Just a tip, don't date anyone that you like. If you like them it isn't going to work out, if you love them then that is a different story.

If you meet someone the first day or week or month, don't do it. Make sure you know the person really good. If you don't your going to end up being emo.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Deathawk on 2006-07-05 at 03:22:06

Teen dating almost never ends up sucessful.

You'll just lose another friend, or do something stupid.

I say wait till you actually can consider getting married before you start dating. I see too many people just date to be cool.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by CheeZe on 2006-07-05 at 04:02:45

QUOTE(7-7 @ Jul 5 2006, 01:28 AM)

...basically the same? Not at all. If you claim to know the difference, you would know to stay out of a relationship you're in now; especially since you claim to "love" someone else.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by DT_Battlekruser on 2006-07-05 at 04:11:24

QUOTE(7-7 @ Jul 4 2006, 11:28 PM)

QUOTE(CheeZe @ Jul 5 2006, 01:02 AM)

...basically the same? Not at all. If you claim to know the difference, you would know to stay out of a relationship you're in now; especially since you claim to "love" someone else.
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Well said.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Rantent on 2006-07-05 at 05:16:48

I have heard parents talk about abstaining from sex whe nyour young to avoid STD's.
I usually ask them whether or not STD's are carried throughout life.
Then I ask what difference it makes if your young or old.

I usually don't get an answer that makes reasonable sense.

Old people just don't like the idea of young people doing it. I hear them complain that many young people do not know what love really is. Then I see that many adults don't really differ in that aspect.

I think that when people are ready, things should take place.

Same thing for voting, an informed teen would be a better choice than an uninformed adult.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by chrono_seifer on 2006-07-05 at 06:32:28

QUOTE(7-7 @ Jul 4 2006, 11:02 PM)

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Cons
Teen Sex
Possibility of Drugs (spouce may be drug addict)

Overall Teen Dating is okay but what it may lead to could be very bad, Everyone does, not like you can stop it, the ages will only go down.
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Welp im all over that cons list i know that

Report, edit, etc...Posted by CaptainWill on 2006-07-05 at 08:49:18

From what I've observed (I never engaged in early-mid teen dating), relationships between those who are immature in mind and not ready for the responsibility of a relationship, tend to be uncomfortable and fail, often hurting one or both of the people involved, especially if the other person was mature enough.

Personally, I think love is knowing all your partner's flaws and being ok with them, and damn what anybody else thinks.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Mp)7-7 on 2006-07-05 at 10:13:51

QUOTE(CheeZe @ Jul 5 2006, 04:02 AM)

Umm I do still love my old girlfrend, You never forget your first love, and I wouldnt break up with the girl I am with now because I love someone else, especially when Ill never see the other one again, not like I could go back out with her!

Report, edit, etc...Posted by Inspektah-Deck on 2006-07-05 at 14:12:31

I think 7-7 lost all his credibility when he made the statement of cons as:
Teen Sex - Thats bad? -.-
Possibility of Drugs (spouce may be drug addict) - Yea im sure the girl you like is a total crack head and does meth on the side.

Yea you have no idea what your talking about.

Report, edit, etc...Posted by DT_Battlekruser on 2006-07-05 at 15:27:37

Yes, teen sex is certainly not a good idea.

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I usually don't get an answer that makes reasonable sense.

Old people just don't like the idea of young people doing it. I hear them complain that many young people do not know what love really is. Then I see that many adults don't really differ in that aspect.

Answer that makes reasonable sense? No sex as a teen + marrying a virgin + maritial fidelity = no STDs, 99% guaranteed.

You're right, many adults don't differ from younger people's immature views of love. Nobody said that all adults are perfect. Many young people have no clue what love is. So do a fair number of adults.

QUOTE(CaptainWill @ Jul 5 2006, 05:48 AM)

I don't know how to put it better. You also have experience to prove it

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