Report, edit, etc...Posted by KrAzY on 2006-11-20 at 10:26:01
By memory through my entire life, I've seen parents who are nice, lazy and disciplined, any parents such as crazy or weird hasn't been in my head before.
Nice Parent
Good: The kids will be nice, they'll act nice.
Bad: The kids will become spoiled brats. Meaning, they will never learn or earn for themselves.
Ugly: You have to do a lot of work in the house from helping them for their homework to paying high amount of bills if they use the computer a lot. As long you get a happy family, the kids won't earn or learn for themselves at all. If the kids think they're rich, often times they'll steal from stores. And the kids will definently order around their own parents
Lazy Parent
Good: You don't have to do anything.
Bad: The kids will go crazy, roam around the house, a little amount of being spoiled, their house is their own playground.
Ugly: Your house will be that messy, and the kids will never stop giving you headaches. The kids will do drugs, smoking, bad things in school... even gangs.
Disciplined Parent
Good: They won't be that highly annoying.
Bad: They will tend to argue a lot if they grow as a teenager, telling that you should be a nice parent.
Ugly: If you use a weapon against them to let them stop, you may get the satisfaction but you're not a good parent at all. The kids will fight back and get frustated depending on their personallities.
Guardian
Good: No nine months of pregnancy
Bad: They'll have a whole different personallity against you than their own parents. If newborn, you either have to be a nice, lazy, or disciplined guardian.
Ugly:If the baby was a different enthicity than you, they'll ask some questions about that and tend to get frustrated to know their real parents.
What kind of parent would you be?
Nice Parent
Good: The kids will be nice, they'll act nice.
Bad: The kids will become spoiled brats. Meaning, they will never learn or earn for themselves.
Ugly: You have to do a lot of work in the house from helping them for their homework to paying high amount of bills if they use the computer a lot. As long you get a happy family, the kids won't earn or learn for themselves at all. If the kids think they're rich, often times they'll steal from stores. And the kids will definently order around their own parents
Lazy Parent
Good: You don't have to do anything.
Bad: The kids will go crazy, roam around the house, a little amount of being spoiled, their house is their own playground.
Ugly: Your house will be that messy, and the kids will never stop giving you headaches. The kids will do drugs, smoking, bad things in school... even gangs.
Disciplined Parent
Good: They won't be that highly annoying.
Bad: They will tend to argue a lot if they grow as a teenager, telling that you should be a nice parent.
Ugly: If you use a weapon against them to let them stop, you may get the satisfaction but you're not a good parent at all. The kids will fight back and get frustated depending on their personallities.
Guardian
Good: No nine months of pregnancy
Bad: They'll have a whole different personallity against you than their own parents. If newborn, you either have to be a nice, lazy, or disciplined guardian.
Ugly:If the baby was a different enthicity than you, they'll ask some questions about that and tend to get frustrated to know their real parents.
What kind of parent would you be?
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Gigins on 2006-11-20 at 10:37:07
And what kind of parent would you be? I guess a psycho sadist, you'd probably beat down your kids with a shovel when you find out that they downloaded Firefox or photoshop. 
Report, edit, etc...Posted by JordanN_3335 on 2006-11-20 at 10:44:45
You forgot spoiled parents.
For me if I do chose to have children I'll be a soft discipline one but I'm scared of getting a.i.d.s
For me if I do chose to have children I'll be a soft discipline one but I'm scared of getting a.i.d.s
Report, edit, etc...Posted by adam2new on 2006-11-20 at 10:45:45
It'll be hard for me to be a parent.
1= I am not able to do everything I'm supposed to do
2= If I can't handle dogs, I definitely can't handle children.
3= Count me out of kids.
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1= I am not able to do everything I'm supposed to do
2= If I can't handle dogs, I definitely can't handle children.
3= Count me out of kids.
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Report, edit, etc...Posted by Blood- on 2006-11-20 at 10:46:32
Actually diciplined parents arent all that bad, my parents diciplined me I mean not with meating like a little slap on the wrist ro a spank or w/e but I turned out great.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by xmrxsiegecopx on 2006-11-20 at 11:02:31
I'd most likely be at the midpoint of Nice and Disciplined. The amount of discipline the children needs is dependent on the children's personalities.
1. Being nice can usually be good, but having absolutely no discipline is bad for obvious reasons.
2. My parents were more than disciplines, they were child abusers that often beat the crap out of me for small, pathetic reasons (such as accidentally spilling small amounts of liquid on the tile floor) when I was still a kid; although it did give me my restraints that I have today, those very same restraints are what I have to struggle with (BTW, my restraints are called anxiety and social phobia).
3. The only excuse there is to be a lazy parent would be if you were over-working and have somebody to look after them for you. It's also the only faster type of parenting -- other than nice -- often getting them spoiled, so this one is quite bad.
4. I could barely handle social situations -- how can I possibly handle adopted children?
5. You forgot Abusive Parents.
6. I'd rather have at least one child in my lifetime (particularly a girl -- I've never had any sisters) than none at all.
1. Being nice can usually be good, but having absolutely no discipline is bad for obvious reasons.
2. My parents were more than disciplines, they were child abusers that often beat the crap out of me for small, pathetic reasons (such as accidentally spilling small amounts of liquid on the tile floor) when I was still a kid; although it did give me my restraints that I have today, those very same restraints are what I have to struggle with (BTW, my restraints are called anxiety and social phobia).
3. The only excuse there is to be a lazy parent would be if you were over-working and have somebody to look after them for you. It's also the only faster type of parenting -- other than nice -- often getting them spoiled, so this one is quite bad.
4. I could barely handle social situations -- how can I possibly handle adopted children?
5. You forgot Abusive Parents.
6. I'd rather have at least one child in my lifetime (particularly a girl -- I've never had any sisters) than none at all.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Doodan on 2006-11-20 at 15:47:07
Since I already am a parent, I'll just add my own commentary to each of the categories. Parts of each one (except the last) apply to me, and I can't really say one style dominates over the other. While my boy's mom was still pregnant, I swore I'd be a very strict parent, but I've been a lot softer than I thought I'd be. Parenthood is just one of those things that you have no idea how to plan for until you're actually on the proverbial "battlefield". You'll find that most of what you thought beforehand was wrong, and you'll learn things you never knew you never knew. ;p
I try to maintain proper manners when dealing with my son. For instance, I usually say "please" when I ask him to do something, as well as "thank you" and "you're welcome" at appropriate times. In turn, he says those things too, even to strangers (He's always getting complimented for having good manners). But I'm not Mr. Niceguy when it comes to my son. I will pyhsically discipline him on occasion and I rarely buy him candy, sweets, or toys when he wants them (which is actually nice, from some perspectives). I certainly don't give him what he wants just because he asks for it.
On the other hand, since we're living with my mom and she helps when she can, she spoils him a lot. I guess that's what grandma's do, but we occasionally get into mild arguments over how much he can be spoiled, especially when he goes behind my back and asks her for something I won't give him. It feels kind of weird to try and assert your dominance over your own mother on some issues. But I really believe I must have the final say when it comes to my boy.
I don't consider myself lazy, but there are definitely times when I do not feel like getting up to play with him. Sometimes its not his fault that I'm tired from doing other things, and I admit it seems unfair at those times, but the fact remains that I'm tired and I'd rather surf the net or zone out in front of the TV. Of course, no matter how tired I am, I still feed him, clean up major messes, etc., in order to make sure he has what he needs to live. I do make sure I'm never neglectful.
Otherwise I'm usually up for going to the park and rough housing with him. As well as doing other things to keep the house in decent shape.
As I said, sometimes I physically discipline my son. I don't like to do it, but he should know that doing some things in the real world will get you hurt, and I'd rather be the one showing him that than some thug he mouths off to. I'm no perfect person though, and there were a couple of times that I punished him more severely than what was warranted. I'll admit that I was actually steamed about other things at the time, and I channelled some of that. Don't preach at me about the wrongs of spanking kids, when you've never had one. There are many many things about your life without children that you take for granted and, have no idea will be gone or more difficult once you do have kids, and it can get to you sometimes (like not getting a full night of sleep or not being able to use the bathroom in peace for a couple of years). However, I've never spanked him for no reason.
I think discipline is very important. If there's something he wants that he's totally capable of getting on his own, I urge him to do it himself. I don't give him many sweets or toys, unless I think he's really earned it (like the times he's managed to clean up ALL of his toys in the entire house). And you mention that the ugly side is that kids will fight back. My son will actually argue with me a little. But I try to encourage peaceful disagreements. It's good for him to be able to think about what satisfies him and what doesn't, and be able to communicate those things.
This doesn't apply to me, personally, but I'm all for people willing to give kids a parent when they wouldn't otherwise have that chance. Like I said though, it's a huge change and there are many things about your current life that you'll have no idea you'll be missing once a kid comes into the picture. And honestly, many people aren't ready for such a thing.
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Nice Parent
Good: The kids will be nice, they'll act nice.
Bad: The kids will become spoiled brats. Meaning, they will never learn or earn for themselves.
Ugly: You have to do a lot of work in the house from helping them for their homework to paying high amount of bills if they use the computer a lot. As long you get a happy family, the kids won't earn or learn for themselves at all. If the kids think they're rich, often times they'll steal from stores. And the kids will definently order around their own parents
Good: The kids will be nice, they'll act nice.
Bad: The kids will become spoiled brats. Meaning, they will never learn or earn for themselves.
Ugly: You have to do a lot of work in the house from helping them for their homework to paying high amount of bills if they use the computer a lot. As long you get a happy family, the kids won't earn or learn for themselves at all. If the kids think they're rich, often times they'll steal from stores. And the kids will definently order around their own parents
I try to maintain proper manners when dealing with my son. For instance, I usually say "please" when I ask him to do something, as well as "thank you" and "you're welcome" at appropriate times. In turn, he says those things too, even to strangers (He's always getting complimented for having good manners). But I'm not Mr. Niceguy when it comes to my son. I will pyhsically discipline him on occasion and I rarely buy him candy, sweets, or toys when he wants them (which is actually nice, from some perspectives). I certainly don't give him what he wants just because he asks for it.
On the other hand, since we're living with my mom and she helps when she can, she spoils him a lot. I guess that's what grandma's do, but we occasionally get into mild arguments over how much he can be spoiled, especially when he goes behind my back and asks her for something I won't give him. It feels kind of weird to try and assert your dominance over your own mother on some issues. But I really believe I must have the final say when it comes to my boy.
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Lazy Parent
Good: You don't have to do anything.
Bad: The kids will go crazy, roam around the house, a little amount of being spoiled, their house is their own playground.
Ugly: Your house will be that messy, and the kids will never stop giving you headaches. The kids will do drugs, smoking, bad things in school... even gangs.
Good: You don't have to do anything.
Bad: The kids will go crazy, roam around the house, a little amount of being spoiled, their house is their own playground.
Ugly: Your house will be that messy, and the kids will never stop giving you headaches. The kids will do drugs, smoking, bad things in school... even gangs.
I don't consider myself lazy, but there are definitely times when I do not feel like getting up to play with him. Sometimes its not his fault that I'm tired from doing other things, and I admit it seems unfair at those times, but the fact remains that I'm tired and I'd rather surf the net or zone out in front of the TV. Of course, no matter how tired I am, I still feed him, clean up major messes, etc., in order to make sure he has what he needs to live. I do make sure I'm never neglectful.
Otherwise I'm usually up for going to the park and rough housing with him. As well as doing other things to keep the house in decent shape.
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Disciplined Parent
Good: They won't be that highly annoying.
Bad: They will tend to argue a lot if they grow as a teenager, telling that you should be a nice parent.
Ugly: If you use a weapon against them to let them stop, you may get the satisfaction but you're not a good parent at all. The kids will fight back and get frustated depending on their personallities.
Good: They won't be that highly annoying.
Bad: They will tend to argue a lot if they grow as a teenager, telling that you should be a nice parent.
Ugly: If you use a weapon against them to let them stop, you may get the satisfaction but you're not a good parent at all. The kids will fight back and get frustated depending on their personallities.
As I said, sometimes I physically discipline my son. I don't like to do it, but he should know that doing some things in the real world will get you hurt, and I'd rather be the one showing him that than some thug he mouths off to. I'm no perfect person though, and there were a couple of times that I punished him more severely than what was warranted. I'll admit that I was actually steamed about other things at the time, and I channelled some of that. Don't preach at me about the wrongs of spanking kids, when you've never had one. There are many many things about your life without children that you take for granted and, have no idea will be gone or more difficult once you do have kids, and it can get to you sometimes (like not getting a full night of sleep or not being able to use the bathroom in peace for a couple of years). However, I've never spanked him for no reason.
I think discipline is very important. If there's something he wants that he's totally capable of getting on his own, I urge him to do it himself. I don't give him many sweets or toys, unless I think he's really earned it (like the times he's managed to clean up ALL of his toys in the entire house). And you mention that the ugly side is that kids will fight back. My son will actually argue with me a little. But I try to encourage peaceful disagreements. It's good for him to be able to think about what satisfies him and what doesn't, and be able to communicate those things.
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Guardian
Good: No nine months of pregnancy
Bad: They'll have a whole different personallity against you than their own parents. If newborn, you either have to be a nice, lazy, or disciplined guardian.
Ugly:If the baby was a different enthicity than you, they'll ask some questions about that and tend to get frustrated to know their real parents.
Good: No nine months of pregnancy
Bad: They'll have a whole different personallity against you than their own parents. If newborn, you either have to be a nice, lazy, or disciplined guardian.
Ugly:If the baby was a different enthicity than you, they'll ask some questions about that and tend to get frustrated to know their real parents.
This doesn't apply to me, personally, but I'm all for people willing to give kids a parent when they wouldn't otherwise have that chance. Like I said though, it's a huge change and there are many things about your current life that you'll have no idea you'll be missing once a kid comes into the picture. And honestly, many people aren't ready for such a thing.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by KrAzY on 2006-11-20 at 19:02:35
To let you all know, Spoiled and Abusive parents is part of the disciplined category, whether a oriental family wants their children to have 4.0 GPA completely from 6th to 12th grade with full A's on every school year is part of spoiled parents but they usually threaten and get angry at their own kids which is in the disciplined category. Abusive parents is also part of the disciplined catergory which can be seen in this quote:
I only put up "Nice, Lazy and Disciplined" is to measure it out from good to bad and lazy could be in the between in some reasons such as in the 'nice side', they can steal, etc while on the 'disciplined' side, they trash your house (In disciplined, abusive parents can cause kids to do that) which seems to be in the actual middle of both.
By the way Doodan, I have to say from your experience means that you're a good parent, in my perspective. And since I'm 20 years old with an engaged girlfriend (who appears to be exactly one month older than me), I'll look up to your example.
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Bad: They will tend to argue a lot if they grow as a teenager, telling that you should be a nice parent.
Ugly: If you use a weapon against them to let them stop, you may get the satisfaction but you're not a good parent at all. The kids will fight back and get frustated depending on their personallities.
Ugly: If you use a weapon against them to let them stop, you may get the satisfaction but you're not a good parent at all. The kids will fight back and get frustated depending on their personallities.
I only put up "Nice, Lazy and Disciplined" is to measure it out from good to bad and lazy could be in the between in some reasons such as in the 'nice side', they can steal, etc while on the 'disciplined' side, they trash your house (In disciplined, abusive parents can cause kids to do that) which seems to be in the actual middle of both.
By the way Doodan, I have to say from your experience means that you're a good parent, in my perspective. And since I'm 20 years old with an engaged girlfriend (who appears to be exactly one month older than me), I'll look up to your example.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by Mp)Excalibur on 2006-11-20 at 20:03:05
I never ever want to be a parent. But if i ever have the misfortune of having a child, i swear ill do a better job than my parents. I would owe the child atleast that much.
Report, edit, etc...Posted by KrAzY on 2006-11-21 at 19:30:23
QUOTE(DEAD @ Nov 20 2006, 07:37 AM)
And what kind of parent would you be? I guess a psycho sadist, you'd probably beat down your kids with a shovel when you find out that they downloaded Firefox or photoshop.
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Thank god I ignored you, but I have to read that post after reading HorroR's signature. Why are you still ignorant?
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Report, edit, etc...Posted by HorroR on 2006-11-21 at 19:47:28
QUOTE(KrAzY @ Nov 21 2006, 07:30 PM)
Thank god I ignored you, but I have to read that post after reading HorroR's signature. Why are you still ignorant?
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Damn, lighten up..
Report, edit, etc...Posted by NerdyTerdy on 2006-11-21 at 19:51:56
I voted Other, not only because it's my name 
. I think I'd be a mix of a nice parent and a lazy parent, leaving most of the discipline to my wife. I just don't really like to assert my authority over kids. Although if they started doing stuff that was bugging me I'd make them stop 
. Not a great attitude I suppose, but atleast I'm honest.
. I think I'd be a mix of a nice parent and a lazy parent, leaving most of the discipline to my wife. I just don't really like to assert my authority over kids. Although if they started doing stuff that was bugging me I'd make them stop . Not a great attitude I suppose, but atleast I'm honest.