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Ever since I have known him, I have hated him. Everytime a single word comes out of his mouth I want to get earmuffs. If he walks left I go right. This is none other than my dad.

As I speak, he is yelling at me to get off the computer. Sure it sounds fair, but it drives my anger up the wall. I want to punch a hole in the wall, but I can't. I have been thinking of suiciding to get his attention, but I fear the point after death. If I injure myself by breaking the door, he would say "Don't break my door, I worked years for it".

God help me.

Tell him that he isnt the father he shud be and u want another father or something.. T_T

sit down with your entire family, and talk about it dont fight or kill your self

Tough it out. Only a few more years until you can move out, right? Keep your cool and get an apartment and a job, or go to college. Then marry some hot girl and terrorize your kid.

I sooo understand you, Revelade... I mean, my mom says my dad is a good guy... I agree, but that doesn't make him a good father. Don't take me wrong, he does his job on the financial side (since he's the only one working [my mom stays at home [(she's the kind of "I stay at home to educate my children)] ] ), but on the emotionnal side... Nada.

I don't recall him ever getting interesting into what I do. I don't have any memories of him saying he loved me (I guess that's normal... but he doesn't even show it). He look at other's son and I can see in his eyes he's decieved of me... A computer . I know he would have loved that I'd be someone sportive, someone he can be proud of, someone he can talk about. It's just not the case.

He also lacks the understanding of my interests. You're all a bunch of sexual maniacs, computer nerds and terrorists, for him... Sigh...


I didn't ease things either, I guess. I completly stopped calling him daddy/dad 4 or 5 years ago. I considered it as a punishment for how he treats me... I always call him by his first name... oh well.



All that to say; Don't worry, Rev., you're not alone stuck with these kinda s. Live with it.


Most stupid thing I heard today. You're fuken stupid, if you do it yourself, you'll only drag yourself to his level. I sweared myself that if I ever had kids, I'd tell them I love them and I'd spend time with then, they would get attention.

ive gotta be to my kid as my dad and mom was vs me:)

My Mom filed a divorce, no problems with Dads anymore. Although it is quite sad that I only see him about every 4 months..

I actually get along with my dad a lot better than my mom. I live with my mom most of the time and its how you describe it Rev. I constanly argue about everything with her. She can get on my nerves, but I just think about something that clams me down: only two more years with this , and I'm out of here.

hehe.. i dont have problems with them.. cuz im livin in the cellar

I guess I'm lucky cause I get along with both my parents. But my mom and I argue a lot more.

Heh, I get on pretty well with my mum, and so-so with my dad.

My mum sometimes seems to go hysterical (frustrated housewife in midlife crisis maybe) and blames everyone except herself for everything that's going wrong. I just go somewhere peaceful when she does it - I even order her to be quiet and calm down sometimes. Rarely works though.

My dad is a different story. I'm in the same ambivalent relationship with my father as many boys my age find themselves in. One of uncomfortable indifference.
This started to happen about 5 years ago. The death of his father and his mother having a stroke (she can't speak even now) and becoming a vegetable seemed to change him.

He wasn't so easy-going anymore. He became quick to anger and when he really lost it (a few times a year), he would smash up stuff. I remember once when I was playing some ancient game on the old computer. He was in a bad mood and yelled at me to switch it off from the top of the stairs (we were in a split level house at the time). I asked for five more minutes. He went away, and after less than two minutes he rushed down the stairs; into my room and ripped the computer out of the wall. He then took it to the garage and hurled it inside where it inevitably broke to pieces.

That's the only clear memory I have of him doing something like that, but I vaguely remember one where he got angry in the street when he wanted to go home from a street party, and we wanted to stay. My mum sent us as couriers to get some money from him (NEVER mention money around my dad) so we could get a taxi if he went home early and took the car. He turned on us and snarled 'Give her this then!' and threw money in our faces, in front of family friends.

He never used physical violence though.

He got diagnosed with high blood pressure and stress (surprise surprise), and now takes something like 6 different tablets twice per day to treat the conditions. Now he rarely gets really angry, he just raises his voice. I can never think of any conversation topics to bring up with him though - but we sometimes have a beer together and he takes me and my brother to the football matched as we have season tickets.

He's also one of the directors of a marketing communications company he helped to found back in 1987, so we should have a lot of money, but he still bristles at any mention of it.

Side note: The Marketing Communications industry tends to use Macs exclusively for their work - that's how I became a Mac user.

Wow. Sarcasm. I could never hurt another human being no matter what, whether it was my kid or not. People like that should be put in jail. I can't believe that you took that seriously. My intent was to tell him not to make that all-too-frequent mistake by making it sound imbecilic. I guess it worked too well.

You could tell your mom about these things. He'd probably be more obstinate hearing things you, so letting him know via your mother could get the message through.

I'm sorry your life sucks. I'd offer you a hug, but that's hard to do over the internet...

my life comparatively is pretty relaxed, but my friends' lives suck. Two of them have attempted suicide in the past month (both of which who are stuck in divorce issues), and a third has contimplated it. I don't know how to help them either, except to be there for them and give them a hug when life really sucks.

someone said marry a hot girl than terrorize your children...
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if you do that, make sure you love that woman, and never get a divorce. that is cruel to the kid.

try and find some common ground, then u wont fight as much, if it means not using the computer as long, i say do it to stop the yelling and stuffs

i get along with both mostly but never really see them a lot either cause of their "jobs"

stop the and get back to being drinking buddies

Or, if you want a hug, just look at Firekame's signature and pretend one of them is u and the other Firekame

Actually, I get along just fine with my parents. They're nice, loving, quiet parents. They can get mad very easily, but I'm lucky my parents can't even IMAGINE a divorce...

which is which? cause im pretty sure they r both guys and FireKame is a girl
am i right? i mean i dont have enuf imagination to change a guy to a girl or vice versa

my dads awesome hes a gamer, a programmer, and all the stuff im becoming . my mom is the antichrist of videogames. and just so she doesnt kill me for having GTA games my dad had to hide them. i even think shes sided with lieberman on the anti-videogames campaign. its supposedly going to make all game e or ec rated. e=everyone ec=early childhood. my mom and i fight alot (words) but she knows if she tries agressive action it wouldnt make a diference. too many paintballs has slowly permanently numbed by pain senses.

lol, Rev, I got the exact opposite as you. My dad pays attention to everything I do. He's, how do I put it ? "Trying to give me the life he didn't have" - I don't know, but when your dad tells you he loves you every 4 hours it gets kind of disturbing. I'm :censored:ing 16, honestly, I tell you. And then, if you'd believe it, his temper. He couldn't get tent poles in a band because the band was too small so he said "Screw this" took them and threw them on the ground as hard as he could and broke a few of them

Seriously... These aren't jokes to make over a serious discussion topic...


Some friend of mine is thinking of it also... I think... He's saying goodbye to everyone, not going to classes, giving back owned money to people... It got better now, though. He states his mom won't let him get out of the house... Honestly, I don't think that's true... But you never know, some parents are like that. I don't recall him ever saying anything about a father, though... Might partly explain why.

Some people would gladly trade places with you.


Nozomu's just trying to lighten up the mood. No malice intended.

Malice is not and has never been intended. If people can't laugh at the crappy situations in their life then they might as well stop living. I sure as hell laugh at the fact that my personality makes it difficult for girls to get close to me. I also laugh at the fact that my brother is a stoner retard whose only goal is to get as high as possible. I laugh because things hurt less that way. I think that everyone should let loose and enjoy the fact that their life is somehow screwed up. It's a cynical way to view the world, but it sure beats moping around.

Meh... Perhaps not everyone sees the good sides of bad sides everywhere... Did you consider that?

Well then they're probably going to have a ty life. But you can certainly consciously change your attitude if you try. If all he wants is for people to listen and offer some comfort then that's fine, but people have to learn to deal with their problems in any way possible. I was just offering my suggestion on how to deal with your problems. If it doesn't work for you, then don't do it. But don't knock it until you try it.

Wow I guess Im pretty lucky to have good parents..